Ep 30 - How To THRIVE Even While Your Child Is Being Diagnosed With A Disease or A Scary Health Condition?

November 24, 2017

Before we get into today’s episode I have an announcement. I am opening the doors for the first time to the THRIVE Mastermind Program for Conscious Mothers.

Does raising small children mean you have to suffer through it one day at a time, or can you actually THRIVE and enjoy my life as a woman, wife, and a mother?

The answer begins with a decision.

The decision that your health matters, your well-being matters, you are worth it and deserve to feel good. This is the best thing you can do for your daughter who will one day model you.

Imagine how that would feel like to see your daughter modeling so naturally what you had to work so hard for?

This is what you will learn in the Thrive Mastermind For Conscious Mothers

So what does it mean to THRIVE as a woman, wife, and mother?

It means to feel safe and in harmony inside your own body.

It means to understand how the body works, how your digestive system and metabolism work.

It means figuring out what is your chronotype and utilize sleep to support your health.

It means to live in alignment with your menstrual cycle and hormones.

It means to cultivate emotional mastery and learn how to regulate your big emotions.

It means to find what it is that you want to do with your life, how you want to feel and courageously design the roadmap to get there.

It means to know how to feel good about your sexuality and optimize joy and pleasure.

More than anything, It means embodying womanhood. Feeling really good in your own skin, and hopefully, pass that on to your daughter.

If this sounds like something your soul has been craving, this is your chance. I only accept serious women into this program, only women who are serious about making a change in their lives. Women who are done surviving and are ready to THRIVE!

Fill out this application and let’s see if we are a good fit.

You deserve to feel good! 

I am committed to guiding you and holding your hand with love, compassion, and sisterhood, but also to kick your booty when needed.

By filling up this application you are not committing to anything, other than giving yourself permission to be curious and ask if this is something that can help you show up in your life as a better mother, better wife, and better woman.

Alright, let’s jump into today’s episode.

Seeing your child going through a hard time is heartbreaking and uncomfortable, that’s for sure. Remember the first time they got sick or had a fever? They look so miserable and you simply have no idea what to do or how to cope with this. I remember the first time my older daughter had a febrile seizure, which was the worst thing you can imagine, and if your child had it, you know what I mean. The shaking, the foam that comes out of their mouth, and then after it passes the next thirty minutes of them being completely immobile or like they’ve just had an out of body experience, which if you think about it actually is true. As parents we freak out, we lose control, we feel helpless and useless especially when you are faced with the bureaucracy of whatever health care system you are a part of.

Trust me, I’ve been there many times, I understand how that feels.

Today I want to talk to you about something I am currently faced with which definitely feels like the most difficult time as a mother, wife and just overall in my life as a human being. Two of my kids have been diagnosed with scary diseases/health conditions which is heartbreaking, scary and dead on uncomfortable. I can’t say this is easy for me, or that I know what I’m doing. What I can share with you are the three things I do in order to stay sane and cruise this season of our lives in the most smooth way possible.

I work with mothers and daughters and I see them struggle with something all the time. A struggle is a part of the process. Growth is only possible when we overcome some kind of struggle in our lives, only then it feels as though you have mastered whatever you are faced with. I love this quote by Eckhart Tolle, who is a spiritual leader and it goes like this: “Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary”. What this means is that you will, or at least whatever you are experiencing will feel like suffering as long as you are unaware of something or see something through a different lens. Only after you change your perspective on things, go through a certain life experience, will you be able to feel like you no longer suffer.

I know this sounds a little woo-woo, and it is in a way, but honestly, I believe this is the way the world works. Now, I say this because if I didn’t understand this fully, I would not be able to show up for my kids the way I want to.

If I didn’t understand this, I would be freaking out, losing my cool, feeling stuck in victim mentality constantly asking the question: “why me?? why my kids? why do they deserve it?”

That being said, I choose to show up in a way that is in alignment with how I want to feel, which is confident, grounded, clear, trusting and safe. These are the feelings and emotions I want to cultivate in my life with regards to all aspects, and my kids’ health is no exception.

So what are the three things I do in order to get through this hard time:

  1. Self-care is non-negotiable as well as putting clear boundaries around my time – right now I do not have the time for excuses and putting things off. I’m not talking about manicure-pedicure here (although I got that done last week), what I am talking about here is practicing mindfulness and physical activity. Yoga and meditation are my go-to’s and I stick to them religiously. They help me feel in control of my emotional state, take necessary actions with a clear and calm mind. If your child is facing a health condition, you are not being of service to them if you act from a place of fear or self-neglect. Right now they need you strong, clear, positive and faithful. Give yourself permission to practice the things that help you feel good, so that you can show up to your child’s struggles fully with love, compassion, and resilience. In terms of putting clear boundaries around my time, what I mean is that right now I say “no” to almost everything. My energy is limited right now and I want to make sure I use it wisely, so I am making a conscious choice and being clear about my time. A friend wants to go for lunch, sorry but now is not the right time for that. A family wants to come over for dinner, sorry now is not the time for that. Binging on Netflix is also not the best idea. Even with my work, I’ve had to put my entire business operation in low gear because now is not the time to go full force. I support my paying clients, but other than that I don’t do anything else. You’ve probably noticed that I’ve been scattered with my podcast, and this is the reason.
  2. Food – eating well, feeding and nourishing my body is important now than ever! Food is not only one of life’s greatest pleasures, it also one of life’s best medicines. It would not be wise to binge and numb myself with comfort food that doesn’t support my own health. Especially now I am super selective with regards to the food I put in my body whether it is drinking green shakes every morning, which help to support my digestive system and keep my blood sugar stable, sticking to whole grains rather than empty carbs which spike blood sugar up or keeping myself well hydrated. Now is the time to take a really good care of yourself. Again, if I don’t feel good I can’t be of service to my children, so make sure to feed yourself with food that supports and nourishes your body, and also feed your kids with real food. This is the best way to support yourself and them through this process. Now that I say this, I have to tell you a story that happened to me last week as we were at the hospital to be seen by the doctor. My husband was hungry so he went downstairs to the cafeteria to get himself something to eat, and he was astounded to find only junk food at the hospital’s cafeteria. Yup, that is the crazy world we live in, junk food is being served at the hospital where people need real food now then never. I had to rave about this, so yeah make sure to make good choices with food, especially now.
  3. Sleep – I cannot function without sleep period. There is absolutely nothing I can do for myself or for anyone else unless I get a good sleep. Sometimes nights are terrible and my baby wakes up a lot I know that I have to ask for help during the day so that I can nap for a few hours. Otherwise, I literally cannot function. I’ve had times when I left the stove on, the water running, left the car door open the whole night when I was sleep deprived. Right now sleep is another part of self-care.

Other than that I also make sure to ask for help when I need, stay in connection with my sisters and other strong women who have been through something similar and can reassure me and give me strength.

Actually, now that I think about it everything I’ve shared so far is related to self-care. That’s not a coincidence. Whenever you are faced with a challenging time in your life, you cannot neglect yourself. If you want to show up in your life as an amazing woman, wife, and mother taking care of yourself has to be a non-negotiable! This is what it means to THRIVE.

Check out the mastermind, this is the place for you to be a part of if you are going through something similar. This is where you can get the support and coaching from me, as well as being a part of a like-minded community of moms who share similar struggles.

I hope this has been helpful to you, let me know if you are faced with something similar in your own life and how you’re dealing with it. You can email me dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com or send me a private message via Facebook, I go under Dorit Palvanov.

May God bless us all with strength, vitality, healing, and love!

Sending you much love and many blessings,

Dorit

Show Notes:

THRIVE Coaching Program Application

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Ep 29 - EverlyWell’s At-Home Lab Tests With Dr. Marra Francis

November 20, 2017

Here's a phenomenon I see repeating again and again with the women I work with, there is this almost unconscious and complete co-dependency between women and their healthcare providers. We believe these health care providers are Gods and as if they are not humans we outsource our wellbeing and health to them willingly almost entirely.

I say this because if you want to THRIVE as a woman, you have got to take back control of your own health, whether it is by educating yourself, consulting various practitioners across the board whether through conventional or alternative medicine. Do whatever you need to do in order to see yourself as an active player fighting in the arena for your health.

I am not saying that you shouldn't be consulting with a doctor if you feel needed, what I am saying is that you need to understand that no one can heal you other than you. No one will show or lead you to a better health if you are not willing to do the work.

One thing that doctors do routinely in a conventional setting is to request lab tests and many women complain that after these tests return normal they are left in a painful situation. Physically, you still don't feel good, but your lab tests don't show anything abnormal. What do you do?

One thing I recommend to women is to try various at-home lab testing to see if there is anything they can discover that the regular laboratory couldn't pick up. I think this is a great way to complement the labs that your doctor ordered and involve your health care practitioner in figuring out the root cause of your health challenge.

Today on the show I am interviewing Dr. Marra Francis who is the medical director for an at-home lab testing company called EverlyWell. Marra is a Board Certified OB/Gyn practicing since 2003. In her clinical practice, Marra's focus is on women who are high risk for cancer either because of genetic mutations or family history, and the goal is to try and reduce their risk of developing cancer in the future. Marra lives in Texas with her husband, their 6 kids, and two dogs.

Here's a little information about the company: Founded in 2015 by CEO Julia Cheek, EverlyWell is the next generation health testing platform that provides at-home lab testing kits with beautifully redesigned results. This is the only company offering a suite of regulatory-compliant, physician-mediated lab tests that can be ordered and collected by consumers without leaving home.

With the exception of STD testing, EverlyWell’s tests provide personalized information and education to the consumer; they are not intended to diagnose any disease or condition or to substitute for professional medical advice or treatment.

Knowledge is always power - knowing more about your body gives you the power to make changes to better your health.

Without further ado, here's my interview with Dr. Marra Francis:

Show Notes

EverlyWell Website

Watch EverlyWell on ABCs Shark Tank on November 26th, 2017

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Ep 28 - You Are More Than Who You Think You Are!

November 15, 2017

You are not who you think you are! As women, we tend to think less of ourselves and belittle our talents and abilities for whatever reason. We often say "I am not good at this", or "I will never be able to be or have that". Today on the show I talk about how we are constantly lying to ourselves and leading ourselves to live less than optimal lives. I am not interested in surviving through this life, I am all about THRIVING! 

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Ep 27 - A Healthier More Radiant Skin After Years Of Acne With Shelby Ondrus

November 13, 2017

Here's something you probably don't know about me, back in my teenage years I had terrible acne. It was so bad I couldn't even wash my face without popping a pimple or two and to this day I have scars all over my face because, yes I did pick my skin. Thank goodness, my mom is a cosmetologist and routinely cares for my skin now that I'm older. But in my younger years, the struggle was real for me. I felt unattractive and not beautiful which, now that I think about it, was a total waste of my life force and energy back then.

My mom did say that my acne was getting worse because of my addiction to fried foods (I loved chips, fried chicken, basically anything fried seemed delicious to me at the time). I, of course, chose not to listen, and frankly, the thought that food had anything to do with my skin sounded ridiculous to me.

My mom, in an effort to help me to ease my pain, and of course to ease some of her own discomfort, took me to the doctor who immediately put me on a birth control pill. Now, I'm gonna be honest, it did work. As long as I was on the pill (and I was on it for five years) my acne cleared out completely, however, once I got off the pill, not only did my acne came right back, but I also gained weight, had an insatiable appetite (again for sweet and fried food) and grew hair on my face and body and in other weird places. At the time I didn't know what the heck was going on, but now I know that my hormonal system was out of control. I have been off the pill for 12 years now but I still work on balancing my hormones and clearing out my skin. 

One of the things I found super helpful, along with eating foods that support the liver and help the skin, is to have a dedicated skin regimen which includes regular cleansing and moisturizing the skin. Usually, oily skin will be prone, so it's important to use the right skin care and the right habits in place in order to support your natural beauty and glow.  

If you have been struggling with oily but dry or dry to oily skin, redness, rosacea, eczema and other skin issues you're going to love this episode. 

Today on the show I am interviewing Shelby Ondrus, the creator and formulator of Shelby Naturals which is a natural skincare line and she specializes in skin care products for acne-prone skin. I think you are going to love her, she's super knowledgeable not only about clean skin care but also about nutrition and other things natural. We talk about the right foods to support your liver, gut, and skin, and other lifestyle changes you can in order to have a more radiant and glowing skin. If you are interested to try Shelby's products you can use the promo code Dorit15 to get 15% off your purchase price, I think you are going to love them!

To redeem your offer go to: www.shelbynaturals.com

 

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Ep 26 - Let Go Of Control In Feeding Your Children!

November 8, 2017

Join me in the car (on my way to pick up my kids from school) as I talk about letting go of control in feeding your children, why it is important? And an example of how being too controlling with food adversely affected my relationship with my daughter. 

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Ep 25 - Helping Children with ADHD To Thrive, with Guest Nindy Grewal

November 6, 2017

According to the CDC, which is the centers for disease control and prevention, "approximately 11% of children 4-17 years of age (6.4 million) have been diagnosed with ADHD as of 2011 and this number continues to rise each year. Why is this happening? Can the reason for it be hiding in the food system? Is it possible that, unknowingly, we, parents are feeding our children foods that are adding to the problem?

Having a child with behavioral issues is really not a joke and extremely difficult and challenging. My intention behind this podcast is to expose you to a slightly different way of thinking. What if we could see our children and the challenges they bring as a spiritual growth opportunity for us? What if I was chosen to parent this child not randomly, but because I have the wisdom and answers within me that are needed to guide this child through life? How does this perspective change your attitude towards your child? How would your parenting style change? How would your relationship and connection to this child look differently if you allow yourself to stay open and receptive to something different? Hopefully, this ignites some curiosity within you.

Today on the show I am interviewing Nindy Grewal who is a mother two, a Holistic Nutritionist, a Clinical Iridologist and a Live Blood Cell Microscopic Analyst. Prior to working in the holistic health field, Nindy worked as a teacher, and currently focuses her practice on helping children with ADHD, Autism, delayed learning and behavioral issues. Her work is dedicated to empowering children, parents and teachers work together and help those children to thrive and succeed.

Here's what we cover:

  • Why are more and more children struggling with attention, focus and other behavioral disorders?
  • What are some of the conventional treatment options available for these children today?
  • How does Ritalin work? How does it alter the brain chemistry?
  • What can mothers do to help their children using food and nutrition as the preferred therapy?
  • Which foods can parents include in order to help children with autism?
  • How can we support children with ADD/ADHD in the school environment?

Show Notes: 

Helping Children with ADHD To Stay Balanced

Detox recipes to help balance the gut and brain

Nindy's Website

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Ep 24 - Three takeaways after a live event I hosted

November 1, 2017

Today on the show I share three takeaways after an event I've hosted last week for women called How To Lose Weight Without Starving Yourself.

What are your struggles with food or weight loss? You can email me dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com

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Ep 23 - Healing From Grief After A Miscarriage Using Essential Oils With Guest Katie Williams

October 30, 2017

Hi sweet mama, and welcome to Health Begins With Mom Podcast, I am Dorit Palvanov your host. I've created this podcast for all of us women who are in the trenches of raising little human beings, struggling to feed them, support them emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Our children need us, and we need them, but I think one of hardest things in this process is to realize that the most challenging work of motherhood is to raise ourselves. The hardest thing to do is not to be a mother to them, but to mother yourself. I refer to this process as "adulting", which is realizing that even when times are hard it is our responsibility to show up as an adult, ask for help when needed, stay connected to other people who are going through a similar experience, but no matter what please, DO NOT SUPPRESS your emotions, do not numb yourself with drugs, alcohol, food or other external things. We all struggle, we all go through hard moments, and it is definitely understandable that we need time to heal and retreat, but at the end of the day life goes on, and we need to figure out how to be able to not only function and survive during these hard times, but also to thrive as a woman, as a wive and as a mother. My intention with this show is to create space for all of us, to learn from each other, and to always know that we are not alone!

I love featuring women and mothers who have been through rough times and helped themselves or the people around them heal with some sort of holistic modality or alternative medicine. Today I am talking with a mama who has been through a heartbreaking loss of one of her babies and her story of pulling herself out of the darkness using essential oils.

Katie is a mother to 6 wonderful children, including one true angel. She is married to her best friend and wishes she lived in a musical. Katie has extensive experience in multiple energy healing techniques including The Emotion Code, The Body Code and in using essential oils to help regulate emotions. Katie is passionate about helping women work through their difficult suppressed emotions and setting them free. Her mantra is: Control your emotions, Control your life!

Show Notes

The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson 

The Boy Code By Dr. Bradley Nelson

Healing grief with essential oils

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Ep 22 - A Story About Two Brothers

October 25, 2017

As you know, I am a huge proponent for developing emotional intelligence as a skill in our children, so Today on the show I share a story which is an analogy for two parts of our brain that process different types of information we, humans, encounter on a daily basis. This is a story about two brothers, the "big brother" is the one who's responsible for processing emotions and feelings and the "younger brother" is responsible for processing information, academics, learning, memory, etc. This is what we call the battle between EQ and IQ, and the difference between the two.

This is a story I received in my inbox written by an Israeli psychologist I'm subscribed to and admire his approach, so this is how it goes:

Today, kids, I am going to tell you a story about two processors. A big processor and a smaller one. We will refer to them as a big brother and a younger brother.

The older one is wise and experienced and the younger brother is inexperienced, arrogant and full of himself.

What do I mean by processor? This is a part of our brain that works like a computer processor that knows how to process information and turn it into comprehension and then into tangible action.

This is a true story, kids.

The older processor is called "intuition", "emotional intelligence" or "subconsciousness", who shines when it comes to being wise about life and processes information slowly, with patience and reverence.

The younger one is called "the mind" or "consciousness" and he is really good at thinking, analyzing, and remembering details.

The younger brother is extremely proud of himself for doing well in school, he knows a lot, reads a lot, he is what people call book smart, intelligent.

The younger brother puts the older brother down and feels superior to him. After all, he is the educated and enlightened one.

However, when life becomes difficult, unbearable and too stressful this brother caves in, becomes silent, he has nothing to say. He doesn't know how to cope with difficulties. That is the time when the older brother kicks in.

Both processors are inside of our heads

The younger one sits on the left at the front of our head, and the younger sits on the right at the back of our head.

The youngster goes to school and teachers adore him: he knows mathematics, literature, he speaks politely and with manners, he's great at putting on a show.

Parents love him too, they enjoy conversing with him, he makes them feel good about themselves, smart and successful.

But the truth is that the young brother can handle small amounts of input at a given time. Too much of it overwhelms and confuses him.

The older brother, however, is much more resilient. He makes millions of calculations at every given moment, Weighing considerations and produces a result. He is responsible for how we feel at the moment and for our sense of safety, confidence, and security. 

When the older brother solves a certain problem and declares it, the younger brother awakens and starts to doubt his solution, he says things like "yes but", "what if", "if only" "I can't" "you're not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not thin enough".

That is why most of the time I choose not to believe the youngster.

It feels like he's not telling the truth, he's too doubtful for my liking. He's a newbie. That's why most of the time I choose to go with the advice of the older brother.

How about you? Who's controlling your head?

Unfortunately, mainstream education system favors the younger brother.

It doesn't understand and trust the older brother. They don't know how to nurture and encourage him.

Who do I prefer?

It would be silly to choose one over the other, as the healthiest solution would be a combination of both brothers, both processors.

But it is very clear to see that the younger brother rules in the educational and health systems, so we need some affirmative action in favor of the older brother.

We need to learn to trust him more

to grow and nurture him, to allow him to guide and direct the younger brother over a lifetime.

So what does this mean to us as parents?

This means we have to ask questions like "what is the first thing that jumps into your head?", questions like "how does it feel in your body?", "where do you feel it in your body?", "guess what's right".

This is a practice and we have to help our children develop a stronger sense of trusting themselves and their bodies. This is called intuition, gut feeling, inner wisdom. It takes practice.

Look, the little processor is able to work really well, ONLY when the older brother keeps him safe.

This means I cooperate and participate in any activity that gives the younger a sense of confidence in learning. I listen and pay attention to children's language, both verbal and physical. I ask open-ended questions and encourage to listen to their inner wisdom and come up with answers that feel good to them.

I am patient, loving and accepting. I believe in their abilities to come up with solutions that are right for them.

I know you are busy, and there are a lot of things that need to get done. Here's the thing though. Before you can help your child to tune into their his/her wisdom and intuition it would be wise to develop it in yourself, so that you can model it to them. The thing that works best for me is to slow down, sit in silence and journal. Meditation works beautifully as well.

If you are new to this start a yoga practice of your own. If you need accountability do it with a community. Try group yoga classes. I recommend taking classes at a professional yoga studio instead of at the gym, as the atmosphere is totally different. You can listen to episode 18 where I interviewed my yoga teacher, Rachel, and we spoke about the benefits of yoga for mothers.

I hope this was a helpful way for you to think about these two forces in each and every one of us. Both of them need nurturing, gardening and practice.

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Ep 21 - Food Sensitivities Vs. Food Allergies with Guest Rebekah Fedrowitz

October 23, 2017

Have you ever heard the saying: "Seven Billion Diets For Seven Billion People"? This is a quote from Julie Daniluk's book, Meals That Heal Inflammation. These seven words resonate with me deeply because after working with women and children for the past five years I can tell you that although there are some common factors, for the most part, people are different and food isn't, and shouldn't, be seen as a black and white. Our bodies constantly communicate with us through various channels, some of these channels can be emotional and some can be physical. Today we are talking about physical channels of communications and in particular food sensitivities or allergies. Did you know that things like itchy skin, hair loss, brain fog, bloating, constipation and even body odor could be symptoms sensitivities to food? When it comes to helping your child, or yourself, with a food sensitivity or a food allergy, there is very little we can do conventionally, I've heard many moms complain about doctors who describe these symptoms as "it is all in your head". My intention here is not to go against conventional medicine, of course, but to educate you about other things you could do to help yourself or your child with food sensitivities or intolerances.

Today on the show I am talking with Rebekah Fedrowitz who is a board-certified holistic nutritionist, and mom to an energetic toddler. She is passionate about helping women find hope and direction as they navigate the overwhelming world of health for themselves and their families. Through her virtual wellness company, You Are Well, Rebekah teaches natural principles that can be applied to the way we eat, think, and live to positively impact both short-term and long-term health. Rebekah started her career in the health and wellness industry in 2005. She has had the opportunity to impact the health of individuals all over the country through private consulting, group programs, and health-based cooking classes.

Here's what we talk about:

  • The difference between a food sensitivity, food intolerance, and food allergy?
  • Why are there so many issues with food these days?
  • How can moms help children with a food sensitivity?
  • Best testing for a food sensitivity/intolerance/allergy for children and adults?
  • What is the elimination diet?
  • The process to go through if you suspect there is a sensitivity or intolerance to food

Show Notes 

Link to register for my webinar - How To Have a Healthy Meal Every Day Even When You Don't Have Time

How an Elimination Diet Could Help Reset Your Health

Everywell.com - at home food sensitivity test

You Are Well’s Elimination Diet: A 3-Step Food Solution Plan for Total Body Health

Rebecca's website: https://youarewell.co/

FB group: A Different Approach to Health™

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