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Ep 56 - Getting Through Rough Times As a Mother With Love, Grace and Mindfulness with Guest Marla Sacks

May 16th, 2018

How to get through rough times as a mother with love, grace, and mindfulness?
 
Today I am chatting Marla Sacks who is a highly trained Yoga Instructor and founder of the Conscious Connections Course for recently certified Yoga Instructors. She trains the new or floundering yoga teacher on how to create thriving, conscious businesses using a formula to master abundance with their newfound yogic wisdom.
 
Marla teaches gentle yoga classes to restore body balance, energy Hatha / vinyasa yoga flow classes for all level students of life and Kundalini (the ultimate yoga of awareness) and meditation classes. She offers High-Level yoga workshops that speak to a myriad of topics such as "how to transition your body and mind from seasonal mood swings" to practices on "self-love” and how to release negative energy with a positive mind.
 
She specializes in mindfulness-based stress reduction techniques, yoga for therapeutics, angel yoga for children, and in hands-on or off Reiki and Sat Nam (in truth) ancient arts of healing modalities. Marla’s mantra for medicine and kriya (cleanse the mind of toxic thoughts) based approach as a"Yogi Whisperer" offers a nurturing style that brings comfort, support, inner peace and compassion to her teachings. Her gloom to bloom in three2five minutes is at the forefront of her passion to bring more conscious light into the world.
 

Show Notes

marlasacks.com

Conscious Connections Facebook group

Join my private Fabecook Group 'Busy Moms Get Healthy' 

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Ep 55 - 3 Things To Help You Redefine Mother’s Day!

May 11th, 2018

How do you celebrate mother's day?

Are you treated as a queen for that day? Do you get a breakfast in bed? Do you order in and skip the mess of eating at home? Do you spend time in nature? Do you spend the day with kids or your own mom or grandmother?

Or,

Do you give yourself a day free from chores?

Do you give yourself permission to do less stuff and just take in and savor what you've created?

Notice how in the last two sentences I've used the term "give yourself" instead of "get".

Because you don't get anything from life. Nothing is free. And I don't say this to discourage you, I say this to empower you and encourage you to take back control over your life. In life, you set intentions, ask for what you want, declare it to the universe, do what is required to get it, and then wait for it to come. And it will come, I promise.

Because at the end of the day, even your Mother's Day will go the way you decide, you intent and you request.

Remember this - you are the one teaching people how to treat you.

If you just expect people to do or give to you without asking for it or setting an example for it, in most cases you will end up feeling disappointed, full or resentment, and unappreciated. I know, I know, you may be thinking "but I like to be surprised", well then it is up to you to make sure the people you love know and are clear about the fact that you like to be surprised. Don't expect them to guess it, and don't trust their goodwill. This is not to say that people are mean, absolutely not! What this means is that people are busy, overscheduled and self-absorbed. This is true especially with regards to children, who don't yet have the capacity to see someone other than themselves.

So, as wise women, someone I like to refer to as divas or goddesses, it's up to us to set the stage and make it a success. At the end of the day, Mother's Day is not really about them celebrating you, but rather, you celebrating yourself, your status as a mother. Build the environment for yourself to make this a special day, which will hopefully have a lasting effect beyond just one day. I want you and me to live like this every day.

So what should you do instead?

I want to give you three suggestions to try for this Mother's Day so that you have an example, even if it's just for one day, of what's possible. I want you to see for yourself how it feels to THRIVE in your body when you set the right grounds for yourself.

  1. First thing I recommend you to do is start the day before everyone else gets up. Give yourself the permission to wake up in peace, quiet, and serenity. Forgo the phone and news. That can wait.
    Breathe deeply.
    Strech. Look up some short yoga videos on YouTube, even if it's for 10 minutes.
    Have that shower you are craving but never have the time for.
    Write in your journal. If you don't have a habit of journalling yet, start by writing what you are grateful for today.
    Drink a cup of warm water with lemon following your favorite cup of coffee.
    Make an agreement with yourself that you will finish that cup, and will not drink it cold!
    This is not so much about the coffee as it is about an act of self-love and self-honoring. Again, don't expect your family members to understand this, just male a point of it. I actually say this to my daughters, "as an act of self-love I am going to finish my cup of coffee (or tea) and right after I will do/help/give you" whatever it is they need.
  2. Start your day with a delicious and nourishing breakfast! If you can get your husband and/or kids to bring it to your bed, go for it! I go by the principle of PFF - protein, fat, and fiber in the morning which is designed to support your nervous system and your sensitive hormonal system. Some ideas could be a sprouted whole grain toast with 1/2 an avocado and cod liver or sardines. This is my go to as far as breakfast. It is quick, easy to put together and I find that it is extremely soothing and calming for the nervous system. Other ideas would be a chia pudding which is basically soaking chia seeds overnight in a milk of your choice (I prefer dairy-free milk) and top it with nuts, seeds, maybe a drizzle of maple syrup, and some fresh fruit or berries.
    I know breakfast can sound trivial and silly, but I see so many women, moms especially who either skip breakfast altogether or eat cereal with milk for breakfast which sets their blood sugar on a never-ending, and sometimes dangerous roller coaster. When you choose good quality and nourishing breakfast for yourself you are not only feeding yourself right, but also teaching your kids to make these choices for themselves too. Think of it as programming your kids for a lifetime of self-care.
  3. The last thing I recommend you do is - look at yourself in the mirror and smile to yourself! So many times we look at ourselves with a rushed and exhausted look which doesn't inspire us throughout the day and doesn't honor the humanness inside of us. I want to cultivate a life for myself where I view each day with reverence and godliness. I want to live my life from a place of awe and respect to the creator and mother earth, as opposed to rushing through life like a beat up rat who never gets a chance to truly enjoy the process of creation and feel bliss. What's the point to life and raising children if every day is a hassle and feels like a chore? Again, the only one who can give you that is you. Don't wait for that feeling to just drop on you one day. The way to do this is only by practice, every single day, in and out. By allowing yourself to observe, to pause, to let your shoulders down. To stop talking and running around. Just stop.
    For that day, I want to challenge you to look at yourself in the mirror and smile at yourself. Go ahead and tell yourself "I love you". If you have a full body mirror do that for your body as well. No matter how heavy or light it is, no matter how much cellulite it has, no matter how many muffin tops you have, no matter how fat or skinny your arms are. This is your only body. You will never have another, and I want you to look at it with a different perspective, even if it's just for today. This body has been there with you in preschool, grade one, grade 8, grade 12, college, your wedding. This is the body that has allowed you to carry your child. This is the only body you have so please love it, honor it, see the sacredness in it. It is yours for the rest of your life.

So there you have it, three things I think you should do this Mother's Day, without relying on anyone, expecting anything from anyone, just celebrating your life, your motherhood journey and just be. If you happen to get gifts or flowers from anyone let it be an added bonus or like the icing on the cake, but remember that feeling good on that day is an inner work. It comes from deep within.

I found this beautiful poem online which I think you'll love! It's called: As I Began To Love Myself.

The author is unknown.

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.  Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.  Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself.  At first, I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future.  Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick.  But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!

Quick reminder, if you feel overwhelmed, uninspired, exhausted, like you are just getting through the day and suffer quietly and slowly dying from within, please stop waiting for it to just go away! Instead, reach out to me. Send me an email, dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com and we'll get on the phone for a quick chat to see if we're a good fit. In order for this to work, your need and craving to feel good have to be stronger than my readiness to serve you. I want it for you but you have to want it more! That's the only way you are going to breakthrough.

I wish you a beautiful, happy and joyful Mother's Day!

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Ep 54 - Feeding Picky Eaters with guest Jenny McGlothlin

May 9th, 2018

Do you struggle with feeding your child, is he/she a picky eater? Whether you are raising a toddler or a teen who struggles with food, you are going to LOVE today's episode!

I am chatting with Jenny McGlothlin who is a certified speech-language pathologist specializing in the evaluation and treatment of feeding disorders for children from birth through the teen years. She developed the STEPS feeding program at the Callier Center for Communication Disorders at the University of Texas at Dallas, where she works with families on a daily basis to foster feeding skills that will serve a child for a lifetime. Her passion is teaching children how to eat when they just can’t figure it out on their own and has been inducted into the Texas Speech-Language-Hearing Association’s Hall of Fame for her work in the field. Jenny has spent many years teaching graduate-level courses on feeding as well as early child development. She frequently provides feeding workshops for parents and continuing education seminars and webinars for therapists, and co-wrote the book "Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating: A Step-by-Step Guide for Overcoming Selective Eating, Food Aversion, and Feeding Disorders". As a mother of three young children, Jenny makes family meals a priority, and enjoys reading and spending time with her friends.

Show Notes

extremepickyeatinghelp.com

extremepickyeating.com

Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating: A Step-by-Step Guide for Overcoming Selective Eating, Food Aversion, and Feeding Disorders

Conquer Picky Eating for Teens and Adults

jmcglothlin@utdallas.edu 

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Ep 53 - You are NOT your mom!

May 2nd, 2018

The Mother-Daughter relationship is the backbone of my health coaching practice because I believe that this cross-generational relationship affects all of us in very subtle and not so subtle ways. Whether it is your relationship with your mother or your relationship with your daughter. The common ground is you.

In my coaching calls with women, who are themselves mothers I hear an ache. I hear a voice that is sometimes extremely difficult for them to express since it is a taboo to speak badly or badmouth your mom. After all, this is the person who has given me life, how can I say something bad about her??

When I work with clients I walk them through a process called "healing the mother wound" which is basically healing, getting over, being at peace with or breaking free from any pain (physical or emotional) which was inflicted on you or perceived by you, by your mom.

Now, I want to be clear here. This is not about hating or stopping getting advice from your mom! Absolutely not! My mom and I are super close, I can't imagine my life without her. What I am suggesting is to be OK with thinking differently than her. Being OK with doing life differently than her, choosing a different path for yourself and writing a different story with a different ending for yourself and your own daughter, if you are raising a girl.

A few years ago I struggled immensely with my own mother-wound. I love my mom so much but didn't agree with how she does things (whether in her marriage with my dad, with regards to parenting and especially with regards to career choices or life's work).

I remember myself as a little girl, constantly correcting and telling her that she is wrong. I have always been a talkative and an opinionated girl (I guess you can say I was a coach in the making) and that led me through a very dark hole of fearing that I will end up like my mom.

All this personal growth work that I do doesn't mean anything because at the end of the day I am conditioned to be just like her. I have always been irritated by her thinking small, fear and lack of confidence. That's how I perceived it through my limited lense. I constantly found myself literally "parenting" my own mom. Constantly fixing, correcting and teaching her how to do life. It was so inappropriate and also disrespectful. It became even worse as I became a mom myself, I was judgmental of how she looked after my kids, or how she raised us, felt like it's her fault and she screwed me up. Long story short, it was nasty and a huge waste of my energy!

Bless my mom and her wisdom, she never gave me pushbacks, she merely allowed me to have my tantrum, be done with it and come back to her newer, wiser and with a new perspective.

This process had allowed me to connect with my own life's purpose which I know now is to serve mothers and help them heal so that they can do the work that they are destined to do in a way that feels sustainable and nourishing to them. I raise mothers, that is my life's purpose. Instead, I felt like I had to raise, fix, or parent my own mom. I guess that was a part of the process.

The salvation came to me after I've hired a coach who has taught me that it is not my job to parent my mom. That I have to learn to let go of forcing her to be who she's not. Stop judging her, stop correcting her actions, stop expecting her to show in a way she can't, stop feeling like I'm smarter than her. And instead, trust. Trust that as a woman she also has her own inner wisdom and guidance system that is leading her through her life.

We are all different, and even if she's my mom, it doesn't mean I have to be, think, act or choose like her. This is called separating or individuating from your mom, and that is a necessary step in becoming a healthy adult. I talk a lot about the process of adulting on this podcast, and I believe that in order to safely transition into adulthood, we must first heal our childhood wounds and love cracks. This doesn't mean that we blame our parents, but instead we take full responsibility for our own lives, trust that we have got the right mom and dad for our unique soul purpose, and as we become parents ourselves we allow ourselves to stand free from their influence, while staying connected with them on a completely different level.

After doing my own work around healing my mother wound, my conversations with my mom have become much more vulnerable and much deeper. For the first time in my life, I see myself as a woman sitting next to her, not as her little girl or daughter. I allow myself to approach her with curiosity and compassion instead of judgment and resentment. I fully accept her fully as a human being, woman and yes, my birth mother. She has given me so much, and I am who I am thanks to her, but from here onwards I'm on my own, and I don't have to live my life like she did. That is ok.

In my coaching calls with women, I hear fear, judgment and tabooing around cultural norms such as raising your kids in a certain way or feeling really bad about putting yourself at the sidelines while putting everyone else in your household ahead of your own needs.

I hear women fearing to voice themselves fully, expressing their inner fears that many times whisper to them NOT THIS. I don't want to be like my mom, I don't want to approach my health, life, marriage, parenting, life, work, friendships or anything else like my mom. I have my way. is that ok?

So I am here to give you a huge hug and whisper in your ear YES! It is OK!

You are not your mom. You are a different person, you are your own unique version of you.

You are allowed to design your life the way you want to. You are the creator of your life and I want to give you the permission to individuate and separate from being "the daughter", from feeling like you are stuck under your mom's wings because the only person who's keeping you there is you. You are the one who's buying the story that you have to be just like your mom.

If your mom did not model self-care for you, then allow yourself to be the one holding the baton for generations to come. This is especially important if you are raising daughters. Choose yourself first always, communicate to her that you matter, that you are a person too and that you deserve to eat a full, warm meal and not only your her scraps.

I can't tell you how many times, in my coaching calls, as we work on balancing hormones, all women eat is their kids' scraps, forget to drink water and even sometimes suppress their urge to pee so much that over time they lose the attunement to the body. By doing this you are not getting more done, believe me, I've been there too. Instead, you are burning yourself out, putting more burden on your adrenal glands and are not living in alignment with your human design as a female and woman.

Think about the message we communicate to our kids. Think about what you, as a little girl, picked up from your own mom. Is this how she plowed through life? Look at your mom and ask yourself, is she healthy? Is she happy? Is she joyful? Is she thriving? Is she living up to her potential human potential?

These questions are important. Here's why.

Have you ever found yourself confused about which career path to choose? Or where to focus your gifts and talents? If yes, surely you've had someone recommend you to try working at a company that makes the product or offers the service that you want to offer too. This is important because you will see how they work, and how far you can go up the rank and it is imperative to ask yourself do I want to be like my boss? Do I want to end up like him/her? Because if I stay here, that is where I'm heading.

This is the same with regards to our health and wellness. Our moms are like these "bosses". Your mom, in most cases, is your first example of womanhood, motherhood, and wifehood. Without noticing, you've been learning from her your entire life, registering in your brain imprints and making notes like "when I'm at this situation, this is what to do". And many women do exactly that.

But what if your soul feels like all of this social and cultural conditioning is wrong?

What if you've tried to be like your mom and as a result got sick?

What if your mom, without noticing too, was just repeating what she has seen when she was a little girl?

This is your chance to break the generational pattern and learn how to respond to your female body in the way it was designed. With grace, compassion, nourishment, understanding, and reverence.

This is important because you are no longer a child. You are a mom now.

If all you eat is their scraps and protein bars, you scream in your kids' face that you don't matter. That eating well is not a priority for you. That the body is like sewage, and you can basically throw in it anything and everything.

That is not true. Your body is a temple and you have only one body. so you must learn to love it, nourish it, care for it and have respect for it. It is your best friend. Forever.

So many women live from the chin up, completely disconnected from their bodies. This leads to all sorts of ailments such as fibroids, hormonal imbalances, cancers, aches and pains, and much much more. For the most part, this pain and suffering is unnecessary and could be easily avoided.

So today's message is that I am giving you the permission to take care of yourself differently. To care for yourself like you've never experienced or learned before.

You are allowed to have help around the house. You are allowed to leave the kids and have a nourishing evening out with your girlfriends.

You are allowed to travel alone.

You are allowed to skip PTA's, volunteering in their school if that is in conflict with your schedule.

You are allowed to cut back on their activities.

You are allowed to have quiet in the morning to center to wake up without chaos, crying and everyone's needs pulling at you.

YOU ARE ALLOWED!

I am giving you this permission.

If you find it extremely hard to separate or individuate from your mother-line or the script that has been written for the women and girls in your life, try writing a letter to your mom that you will never send. This is very healing and cathartic and will help you to express yourself, and say that which you never dared to say.

I dare you to try this.

Now I would love to hear from you! Reach out to me and let me know what are the cultural and societal norms you feel are not in alignment with, and what are you going to do about it? I'd love to hear from you, you can send me an email dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com, or find me on FB, I go under Dorit Palvanov. 

Thank you for tuning in!

I'm sending you much love and healing, until next time.

Dorit

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Ep 52 - Raising Children To Love Themselves

April 27th, 2018

How to raise children to love themselves?

Learn techniques on how to help your children transform negative self-talk, self-doubt, self-criticism, comparison, and perfectionism using the power of self-love.

The School Of Self Love is inviting parents to learn and teach their children about self-love: how to trust, respect, value, be compassionate and stay true to themselves intangible, simple, powerful and fun ways.

“This is about doing our job to make sure our children know who they are at their core and know their innate worth, not because of a grade or likes on Instagram, but because of who they are inside,” says Director and Teacher of The Path of Self Love School Stacey Hoffer.

The course is starting on May 1st, 2018 and is called "Raising Children to Love Themselves" for those who are feeling called to learn the foundational tools every parent needs to help their children create a strong inner foundation of courage, compassion, clarity, and confidence that empowers them to be healthy, resilient, and successful.

During this 6 part course, you will be guided to discover and practice simple, powerful, fun ways to teach your children how to successfully navigate today’s world – to grow strong from the inside out – so they can live their amazing potential while staying true to themselves and experiencing deep fulfillment and genuine happiness.

A lack of self-love is at the root of almost every challenge our children face in their lives. And many of us don't even know what self-love is. Our children cannot thrive in this world if they are filled with self-doubt, disconnected from their hearts, overstressed, filled with negative self-talk, and suffering from body hate.

We all wish the world today was different, but the fact is that our children face pressures we never had to deal with. Social media, the internet, bullying and gun violence in schools, and academic and athletic pressure have increased stress in children. They live in a world of social media and cultural systems that pressure them to conform and perform.

During this course parents will learn:

  • The 10 kinds of self-love every child needs to create a strong inner foundation.
  • How to teach children to transform negative self-talk - and have the inner strength to
    say no to peer pressure.
  • Tangible tools to guide children to cultivate the courage to follow their inner wisdom
    and move past their fears of being seen, what other's think, and not doing things
    perfectly.
  • How to teach children inner resilience and self-compassion when things don't go
    according to plan or hard stuff happens.
  • Best practices for helping children feel good about themselves and stay true to
    themselves… no matter what is happening in the outside world.

To register and for more information, please visit: www.TeachChildrenSelfLove.com
Follow Stacey and the Path of Self Love on Instagram at @pathofselflove

For more information on Path of Self Love School, contact Stacey at stacey@pathofselflove.org

The Path of Self Love School is a social impact organization committed to making the practice, path, and tools of self-love accessible to all people, so that within three generations... we can create a world in which all children are born connected to love and stay connected to that love, no matter what they face, because they know how to source love from within. We offer classes, intensives, and retreats both online and virtually, that have reached over 35,000 people worldwide.
We also have trained Self Love Guides on 6 continents through our training and certification program for those who desire to use our self-love processes, assessments, and techniques in their work, as well as in their families and for themselves.

The self-love techniques, tools, processes, and skills we teach have been tested across age, race and socio-economic background and has been used in therapy, colleges, grade schools, spiritual centers, prison systems, families, corporations, and health & wellness practices as well as in traditional coaching, mentoring, and personal development.

About Stacey Hoffer

Stacey Hoffer is a director, teacher and certified self-love coach at The Path of Self-Love School. She teaches Raising Children to Love Themselves - a 6 part online course for parents on modeling and guiding their children to have a strong foundation of self-love. After earning her Masters in Leadership Development and working in Corporate America as a Change Management Consultant, Stacey received her coaching certification from the International Coaching Academy and founded Soul Alignment Living. Through the Path of Self-Love and her own coaching programs, Stacey has guided hundreds of women to trust their inner wisdom, speak their truth, deepen their self-love, and live in more alignment with their heart and soul. She is a contributing author in the bestselling book “Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness” and has been modeling and teaching her two children how to love themselves for the past 10 years.

Show Notes

Raising Children To Love Themselves 6-week Course

www.staceyhoffer.com

www.pathofselflove.org

Social media handles: path of self love, evolving Stacey

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Ep 51 - Are you waiting for your symptoms to just go away?

April 25th, 2018

Physical symptoms are a language. Are. You. Listening?

Are you taking the time to pause, slow down and pay attention to the cues your body is sending you?

Do you have hormonal imbalances such as PSOC, PMS, painful periods, migraines, acne, fatigue, low energy, depression, thyroid issues, high blood pressure, inability to concentrate, low libido, yo-yo weight, joint pain?

Your body is wise and intelligent, and it wants to thrive and its only way to communicate with you is through symptoms.

Do you suffer from hormonal imbalances but wait for them to just go away?

Do you resist asking for help?

Do you take your health for granted?

Today on the show I am talking about the mindset most of us, women, have around asking for help related to our own health. Please don't wait around for your symptoms to just go away on their own. Unless you are willing to address the core and the source of these hormonal imbalances you won't be able to thrive. You won't be able to feel good, energized and excited about your current season of life. I'm sorry to tell you this, but the reality is that no one is coming to heal you, save you, help you. You are on your own. It is your job to take responsibility for your health and life and do the work that is required. Otherwise, nothing is going to change.

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expect different results" Albert Einstein.

You want to be able to show up for your child, play with him/her, go with him/her places, laugh with them and just to be present and soak in every single minute of every single day. You can't do that when physically you feel sick, heavy, bloated and just unwell. That physical feeling sips into your emotional health as well, as you end up feeling unmotivated, uninspired, getting through the day, barely surviving.

I want you to THRIVE.

I want you to feel good in your body!

I want you to be able to show up for your kids the way you want to.

You deserve it. Heck, you owe it to yourself and you owe it to your kids.

I am working on putting together a program for women who want to take back control of their health, rebalance their hormones and thrive in their female body's so that they can have the energy they need to feel alive again, mental clarity to raise good human beings, nurture their marriage and build beautiful homes.

I still have a few more windows in my calendar open for chatting with you, just send me an email to dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com and let's connect!

Xoxo,

Dorit

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Ep 50 - How to Date Your Partner and Keep Your Marriage Alive with guest Jenny McDaniels

April 18th, 2018

Today on the show I am chatting with Jenny McDaniels about strengthening marriages one date at a time.

Jenny is a part of the Facebook Team at TheDatingDivas.com. She is a stay-at-home wife and mom of the most adorable three littles. She LOVEs spending time with her family and friends! She views Disney as a way of life. Most of all, she loves to laugh. Life without laughter would be a boring existence!

"WHY WE DO WHAT WE DO" - A Note from the Founder, Tara Carson

We began this lil’ venture of dating our spouses, just like anyone else…..waaay back before we said, “I Do” - back when dates were the most important element of our life and held a high status over all else. {WINK} With the focus of dating being at the top of our lists, it helped us fall MADLY in love with the men we now call our DEAR husbands. Since those dating years some of us have had children, finished school, started careers, and quite simply have embarked on what we know now as, “The Married Life.” We all know that marriage can become TOO comfortable {a.k.a. routine} and dating your amazing spouse - the way you did when first falling in love - is the sure-fire way to keep that SPARK in marriage! We are sharing with you the SECRETS of our success! We hope that you will find ideas that keep your marriage healthy, happy, and full of love!

In a nutshell, each Monday the Divas will offer an awesome date already completely planned for your upcoming weekend! {Aw geez… you’re totally welcome!} Throughout the rest of the week we’ll also post quick & easy ideas to serve your spouse, unforgettable family outings and activities with the kids, intimate moment ideas to spice things up in that room, and fun “romance” crafts to boot! There is definitely something for every couple! {Don’t forget to check out our archives for dates you may have missed!}

Show Notes 

The Dating Divas Homepage 

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman 

Year of Dates: Original Binder Set

Year of Dates: Around the World

A Year of Family Date Night Activities

A bundle with 365 text messages to your spouse 

Sexy Sticky Note Pack

7 days of sex challengeYear-of-Kid-Dates-for-Kids-Pinterest-2

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Ep 49 - Do This When You Feel Like You Are Going To Explode!!!

April 11th, 2018

As mothers, we feel like we sacrifice our own health and well-being a lot and when we don't have/get what we want, we tend to get angry, agitated, and irritable. This is totally normal and is a signal from our own inner child that there are some triggers that need to be expressed.

Unfortunately, sucking it up, or 'putting your big girl's pants on' mentality doesn't work here, and in fact, from my experience, can worsen your health symptoms even more.

In my work, I support women who are on their journey to better health through balancing their hormones with nutrition and lifestyle changes and also through learning to cultivate a healthy relationship with their bodies, and since the majority of my clients are mothers this comes up a lot. We all need to learn how to feel in control of our big emotions, how to soothe ourselves and how to regulate our nervous system so that we enjoy the process of motherhood without sacrificing our own health and wellbeing.

Learning how to process these emotions is vital in the process of getting back control over your own health because these emotions are often what is causing you to feel physical symptoms and discomfort in the first place. Unprocessed emotions can be manifested as physical symptoms and that is not woo-woo, that is science!

If you feel like your health is on the line, if you are suffering from hormonal pain or you simply don't feel vital, vibrant and energetic like you used to in the past, I invite you to connect with me on FB (search Dorit Palvanov) or send me an email: dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com and we will get on the phone as soon as possible.

Show Notes 

The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabari 

My interview with Rachel Piccolo (my yoga teacher) 

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Ep 48 - Do You Regret Having Children?

March 30th, 2018

So many mothers feel trapped and judged in motherhood, they feel like they have to sacrifice their lives, hobbies, careers, and self-actualization in order to raise children and provide for them. There are so much taboo and social conditioning that doesn't allow mothers to consciously "regret" motherhood, and express their feelings and emotions in a safe and non-judgmental manner.

I hear women say things like: 

"motherhood destroyed me"

"I regret having children"

"Why did I do this to myself?"

"I am such a lousy mother"

"I'm screwing up my kids"

In today's episode, I talk about the importance of allowing these feelings and emotions to be expressed safely as opposed to stored sway and numbed down. This is the only way to thrive both in your human experience and in motherhood. While I have a lot of respect for women who made the decision not to have children consciously and intentionally this conversation is important for all of us, mothers and non-mothers alike. 

If you choose to be a mother, please understand that it will require you to level up. It will require you to grow, learn, stretch yourself, and grow up, it will require you to become an adult and to stop complaining, playing the victim, playing small, looking for mommy or daddy to save you or do things for you. Heck, motherhood will require you to do things differently than your own mom. You will be stretched to be the mom that you didn't have.

Motherhood is your opportunity to express your true potential as a woman and human being.

There is a difference between pain & suffering. In this article, I feel so much suffering and resistance to motherhood, which is a difficult feeling to live with for the rest of your life. However, if you accept the pain and hardship in motherhood as a given and learn how to flow and plow through it, that's when you would be exercising the muscles of the divine feminine which reside inside of you.

You might not be aware of it, but you do have power. No, let me correct that, you have superpowers!

So, instead of regretting or resisting this experience, try putting on a different set of glasses. Glasses that will show you a different point of view, and different perspective. Because if you have been given the privilege of birthing children, you were meant to do great things you just don't know how. But, the how is easy, the how is learnable, the how is a skill which you can perfect over time with practice.

Your action task for today

think about one thing you are resisting, one thing that feels really hard to you in the process of raising your children and raising yourself and share it with me. I will personally hold your hand and cheer you on. You can find me on FB I go under Dorit Palvanov, or you are welcome to email me dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com

Keep nurturing, mothering and taking care of yourself because your family's well-being begins with you, the mom.

Show Notes 

‘I regret having children’

Christen Reighter's TEDx talk

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Ep 47 - Trusting Your Child With Other Care Providers

March 21st, 2018

With the constant bombarding by the media, news, and internet it is difficult to trust our children with other people. 

Just the idea of leaving your precious munchkin with a stranger for the entire day causes heart palpitations in some of us. 

Today on the show I am responding to a listener's question about childcare and trusting our children with other people and other childcare providers. I talk about the inner work we, mothers, have to do in order to have an easy transition and pass on our child over to someone else's care, and also about different childcare options available, how, where and what to look for when looking for the right person or care facility. 

Raising children and parenting is a triggering experience, and separating from your child is one of the most triggering experiences you will ever have. I talk about how we can calm our anxieties and feel confident with regards to our decisions and how to thrive in the midst of it all.  

Journaling exercises I've mentioned on the show: 

I don't trust other people because... 

I feel challenged to separate from my child because...

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