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Ep 50 - How to Date Your Partner and Keep Your Marriage Alive with guest Jenny McDaniels

April 18th, 2018

Today on the show I am chatting with Jenny McDaniels about strengthening marriages one date at a time.

Jenny is a part of the Facebook Team at TheDatingDivas.com. She is a stay-at-home wife and mom of the most adorable three littles. She LOVEs spending time with her family and friends! She views Disney as a way of life. Most of all, she loves to laugh. Life without laughter would be a boring existence!

"WHY WE DO WHAT WE DO" - A Note from the Founder, Tara Carson

We began this lil’ venture of dating our spouses, just like anyone else…..waaay back before we said, “I Do” - back when dates were the most important element of our life and held a high status over all else. {WINK} With the focus of dating being at the top of our lists, it helped us fall MADLY in love with the men we now call our DEAR husbands. Since those dating years some of us have had children, finished school, started careers, and quite simply have embarked on what we know now as, “The Married Life.” We all know that marriage can become TOO comfortable {a.k.a. routine} and dating your amazing spouse - the way you did when first falling in love - is the sure-fire way to keep that SPARK in marriage! We are sharing with you the SECRETS of our success! We hope that you will find ideas that keep your marriage healthy, happy, and full of love!

In a nutshell, each Monday the Divas will offer an awesome date already completely planned for your upcoming weekend! {Aw geez… you’re totally welcome!} Throughout the rest of the week we’ll also post quick & easy ideas to serve your spouse, unforgettable family outings and activities with the kids, intimate moment ideas to spice things up in that room, and fun “romance” crafts to boot! There is definitely something for every couple! {Don’t forget to check out our archives for dates you may have missed!}

Show Notes 

The Dating Divas Homepage 

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman 

Year of Dates: Original Binder Set

Year of Dates: Around the World

A Year of Family Date Night Activities

A bundle with 365 text messages to your spouse 

Sexy Sticky Note Pack

7 days of sex challengeYear-of-Kid-Dates-for-Kids-Pinterest-2

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Ep 49 - Do This When You Feel Like You Are Going To Explode!!!

April 11th, 2018

As mothers, we feel like we sacrifice our own health and well-being a lot and when we don't have/get what we want, we tend to get angry, agitated, and irritable. This is totally normal and is a signal from our own inner child that there are some triggers that need to be expressed.

Unfortunately, sucking it up, or 'putting your big girl's pants on' mentality doesn't work here, and in fact, from my experience, can worsen your health symptoms even more.

In my work, I support women who are on their journey to better health through balancing their hormones with nutrition and lifestyle changes and also through learning to cultivate a healthy relationship with their bodies, and since the majority of my clients are mothers this comes up a lot. We all need to learn how to feel in control of our big emotions, how to soothe ourselves and how to regulate our nervous system so that we enjoy the process of motherhood without sacrificing our own health and wellbeing.

Learning how to process these emotions is vital in the process of getting back control over your own health because these emotions are often what is causing you to feel physical symptoms and discomfort in the first place. Unprocessed emotions can be manifested as physical symptoms and that is not woo-woo, that is science!

If you feel like your health is on the line, if you are suffering from hormonal pain or you simply don't feel vital, vibrant and energetic like you used to in the past, I invite you to connect with me on FB (search Dorit Palvanov) or send me an email: dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com and we will get on the phone as soon as possible.

Show Notes 

The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabari 

My interview with Rachel Piccolo (my yoga teacher) 

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Ep 48 - Do You Regret Having Children?

March 30th, 2018

So many mothers feel trapped and judged in motherhood, they feel like they have to sacrifice their lives, hobbies, careers, and self-actualization in order to raise children and provide for them. There are so much taboo and social conditioning that doesn't allow mothers to consciously "regret" motherhood, and express their feelings and emotions in a safe and non-judgmental manner.

I hear women say things like: 

"motherhood destroyed me"

"I regret having children"

"Why did I do this to myself?"

"I am such a lousy mother"

"I'm screwing up my kids"

In today's episode, I talk about the importance of allowing these feelings and emotions to be expressed safely as opposed to stored sway and numbed down. This is the only way to thrive both in your human experience and in motherhood. While I have a lot of respect for women who made the decision not to have children consciously and intentionally this conversation is important for all of us, mothers and non-mothers alike. 

If you choose to be a mother, please understand that it will require you to level up. It will require you to grow, learn, stretch yourself, and grow up, it will require you to become an adult and to stop complaining, playing the victim, playing small, looking for mommy or daddy to save you or do things for you. Heck, motherhood will require you to do things differently than your own mom. You will be stretched to be the mom that you didn't have.

Motherhood is your opportunity to express your true potential as a woman and human being.

There is a difference between pain & suffering. In this article, I feel so much suffering and resistance to motherhood, which is a difficult feeling to live with for the rest of your life. However, if you accept the pain and hardship in motherhood as a given and learn how to flow and plow through it, that's when you would be exercising the muscles of the divine feminine which reside inside of you.

You might not be aware of it, but you do have power. No, let me correct that, you have superpowers!

So, instead of regretting or resisting this experience, try putting on a different set of glasses. Glasses that will show you a different point of view, and different perspective. Because if you have been given the privilege of birthing children, you were meant to do great things you just don't know how. But, the how is easy, the how is learnable, the how is a skill which you can perfect over time with practice.

Your action task for today

think about one thing you are resisting, one thing that feels really hard to you in the process of raising your children and raising yourself and share it with me. I will personally hold your hand and cheer you on. You can find me on FB I go under Dorit Palvanov, or you are welcome to email me dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com

Keep nurturing, mothering and taking care of yourself because your family's well-being begins with you, the mom.

Show Notes 

‘I regret having children’

Christen Reighter's TEDx talk

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Ep 47 - Trusting Your Child With Other Care Providers

March 21st, 2018

With the constant bombarding by the media, news, and internet it is difficult to trust our children with other people. 

Just the idea of leaving your precious munchkin with a stranger for the entire day causes heart palpitations in some of us. 

Today on the show I am responding to a listener's question about childcare and trusting our children with other people and other childcare providers. I talk about the inner work we, mothers, have to do in order to have an easy transition and pass on our child over to someone else's care, and also about different childcare options available, how, where and what to look for when looking for the right person or care facility. 

Raising children and parenting is a triggering experience, and separating from your child is one of the most triggering experiences you will ever have. I talk about how we can calm our anxieties and feel confident with regards to our decisions and how to thrive in the midst of it all.  

Journaling exercises I've mentioned on the show: 

I don't trust other people because... 

I feel challenged to separate from my child because...

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Ep 46 - Find The Origin Of Your Current Dis-Ease With This Simple Exercise

March 14th, 2018

Your body is communicating with you constantly, and physical symptoms are a language. Whether you have a hormonal disbalance, weight gain, hair loss, acne, adrenal fatigue or other health condition your symptoms are not random and usually originate in your past. Every single time when I do health coaching with women we get to look at the little girl inside of them who's still feeling hurt, unseen and unheard for a reason and many times reveal that the symptom that is manifested in them is simply a way for the body to communicate with you and get your attention. 

If you want to truly heal your health condition from the core this work is essential. 

Do this exercise and share your results with me, you can email me at dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com

Until next time :)   

Much love and healing, 

Dorit

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Ep 45 - Bringing Fun, Adventure And Travel Back Into Your Mom Life with guest Jodi Fried

March 5th, 2018

"There is no reason why we can't incorporate fun and adventure into our mom life"

Today on the how I am chatting with Jodi Fried who is a wife, mom, and mentor who empowers moms to build travel & adventure into their family lives, enabling enriching experiences for themselves and their families, enhancing balance in their own lives, and most of all, bringing moms toward the fulfillment they dream of. Her four kids keep her on her toes and in constant growth mode. At her core, Jodi is all about love, adventure, and of course, being a mom!

Here's what we covered on the show today: 

  • Why it's important for moms to pursue their passions and continue to have fun even while mothering?
  • The best part about adventuring with kids and family
  • How to overcome all the hardships and obstacles of traveling and adventuring with kids without having a terrible time?
  • Practical tips for a mom who wants to adventure again
  • Travel costs and a few tips on traveling on a budget

Show Notes 

Website: www.loveadventuremom.com/home

Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/adventuremomtribe

Register to the 5-Day Reclaim Adventure in Your Mom Life Challenge: loveadventuremom.com/optin

Jodi's website: jodi@loveadventuremom.com

Cash Back Portals, like Retailmenot.com or ebates.com
ASTC Passport Program (your museum membership may enable you free access to other museums around the globe)
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Ep 44 - The Yoga of Motherhood with guest Tracey Soghrati

March 2nd, 2018

"Becoming a parent is the deepest and most profound yoga practice you will ever have"

Bringing a new life into the world is a big deal, there's no question about that.

It's exciting, scary and monumental.

From the moment a baby is born he is fully dependent on you - for food, physical and mental comforting and everything else that is encompassed in this experience.

In the health space for women and mothers, there's a lot of awareness to take a really good care of a baby. In fact, it's all about the baby.

From the moment you discover you are pregnant, you get into "baby mode". You and hubby will start researching strollers for baby, cute little clothes for baby, furniture for baby, toys for baby, food for baby - it's all baby-centric!

Even if you decide to exercise and take care of yourself for a change you'll see classes like prenatal yoga that are designed to prepare you for birth and a proper positioning of the baby in your uterus.

You've got the point. It's baby all the way.

One thing that is being overlooked and almost ignored is the wellbeing of the woman that is going to birth to this baby. The woman that will step into the new role of a mother. The young lady who will have to face all the new challenges that come with this new role.

She is not trained, she is not educated, guided or supported. She is just left to figure it all out on her own, we assume she knows how. But so many women don't know how. So many women struggle with things like post-partum depression, don't believe they have what is needed to raise really good human beings and achieve what they've always wanted. Instead, I see these women, settle for less than, I see them subscribing to the story that motherhood and parenting are hard and unsatisfying.

No one talks about her physical and mental wellbeing. No one prepares you for the loss of self-identity and grief that is involved in birthing this new life, which is also birthing a new you. From that moment onwards you will no longer know yourself the way you knew before you became a mom.

In the process of becoming a mother, you are losing sleep, time, fun, friends, travel, peace, quiet - in one word, you are losing your freedom. You are losing your pre-mom self and stepping into responsibility and real adulthood.

As a result, many women might feel resentment, anger, and regret. These feelings are normal and ok to feel. You are not crazy, you are not insane. What you are going through is grieving. There's sadness and pain in seeing that little girl not being free anymore, there's pain in seeing this girl becoming responsible for someone else, for having someone dependent on her 100%. And there's no way back.

I want you to know that all of that is an illusion. The only reason why all of that feels hard, difficult and icky is only that you don't have the tools to deal with this new challenge. Is should have been taught or passed down to you by your mother, but of course, since your own mother wasn't taught that herself, she can't teach you what she herself doesn't know. So there are generations upon generations of women and mothers who don't understand themselves, don't know how to regulate themselves, and as a result, raise children who are the same.

This is particularly important if you are raising a daughter. Imagine how would it feel to talk to your daughter about this stuff? Imagine how different her life would be if you teach her how to take care of herself while raising her own child.

No one teaches her how to regulate her feelings and emotions that pop up along with raising a baby who is crying a lot, many times for no apparent reason. No one teaches her how to comfort herself, how to take care of herself and how to not project her own stuff into this new life. No one talks about the fact that children come to the world complete and whole and how because of having mothers who don't understand them and themselves perpetuate generations of humans that are detached from themselves and the present moment.

We are unconscious, unaware, don't know ourselves, so how can we know who these little people are? On a soul level? How can you contain their potential as humans if you don't yet contain yourself as a human being?

That is the core of my mission behind Health Begins With Mom. I want to create that mothering support for you, that circle from which you can grow, learn and thrive. From which you can understand yourself as a human being and raise your children to know and feel that they are whole, complete and resourceful, and grow to be humans we need more of in the world.

Today on the show I am chatting with a friend of mine who's also my yoga instructor, Tracey Soghrati. Before I introduce you to Tracey I have a little warning, we get into a deep and interesting conversation about the process of motherhood, some of the stuff we talk about might sound woo-woo to some of you. I want you to listen anyway, especially if you're a new mom. There's a lot of wisdom and insight you will gain from this conversation.

So, now that I have that out of my way, I'm going to introduce you to Tracey.

Tracey Soghrati is a yoga instructor, educator, and her vision is to share yoga philosophy & practice in a manner that is authentic, accessible and applicable to modern day life. Her classes are grounded in a sound knowledge of the physical body and a humble perspective on the power of the mind. She seeks to incorporate self-inquiry as a tool of self-realization in every practice. She specializes in delivering classes that are healing and invigorating for all levels of the body. From personal experience, I can share that Tracey's classes feel like a therapy session on top of exercise, and I found myself many times in a weird yoga posture with teary eyes and in deep contemplation.

Here's what we covered:

  • The story of the loss of a mother at a young age that brought Tracey to discover yoga at a young age along with challenges
  • The definition of the 'Yoga of Motherhood'
  • The integration of the self and how your yoga practice can help you to hold more of who you are as a human being.
  • The process of rebirth that happens on the yoga mat and the opportunity you have to rediscover your true self.
  • How does the practice of yoga facilitate our evolution of mothers?
  • Loss of self-identity after becoming a mother
  • The five afflictions that can interrupt your ability to deal with challenges and how does yoga & meditation can help with
  • The practice of coming into the present moment and the opportunity you get to be with yourself and see yourself more clearly and face yourself.
  • How your yoga practice can help you build the capacity to deal with scary emotions like fear, anger. rage, insecurity, fear of abandonment, or the biggest fear of all "I can't parent or mother properly".

Show Notes

soghratiyoga.com

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Ep 43 - Three Lessons I’m Learning From My Mothers

February 22nd, 2018

Welcome to another episode of the Health Begins With Mom Podcast, this is Dorit Palvanov your host. If this is your first time listening, welcome! And if you are a regular listener, I want to thank you for spending the next 30 minutes or so with me today. If you are a busy mama believe me I know the value of time, and how scarce it is because I am currently in the trenches right there with you. I am also a busy mama, I have three girls under age 8, married and on a mission to build a business that will bring my family financial freedom as well as inspire and touch women and mothers all around the world. My goal with this podcast and my work is to help mothers understand that before raising their children, they have to raise themselves, feel good in their female body, live up to their fullest potential, thrive as women and parent and mother from that empowered place. In order to raise really good kids, you must first understand that raising children is not a stand-alone project. It is a life's mission you do with intention and deliberation, especially if you want to do an amazing job at raising good human beings that we need more in the world.

It all starts with you. This podcast is called Health Begins With Mom for a reason. The word Health really means all the various aspects of life that make up our humanity - physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health. Specifically, things like spiritual practice and connection to a higher power, sacred work & career, romantic relationships, great relationships with your family & friends, physical health and feeling vital in a female body, cultivating health and abundance with your finances as well, emotional health, happiness and inner joy, creativity & self expression.

All of those things make up who you are, therefore I believe that looking for work-life balance doesn't work because you are not only two things. You are all of the things I've just mentioned. Putting work-life one against the other is like putting them on a scale with work on one side and all of life on the other side. Does this seem like a fair equation to you? Is it even a sustainable equation? My answer is not. I've tried to live this way believe me. It doesn't work.

Today on the show it's me solo speaking to you from my heart. I think this is an important conversation that not many people talk about, and today I want to open it up for you and me. so let's dive in.

If you've been following me for a while you know that I am interested to know how to thrive in my life as a woman, wife, and mother without sacrificing my health and wellbeing. How can I live up to my fullest potential as a woman without feeling like I am putting myself on hold? How can I have a meaningful and connected relationship with my husband, daughters and other people in my life in a way that nourishes and fills me up as opposed to draining me?

I want to make it very clear here that I am not talking about feeling happy all the time, nor am I looking for ways to avoid pain. Nope. That is not the intention here.

I understand that this is unsustainable either, and I do understand that there is beauty and wisdom in pain as well. It is all a matter of perspective. I want to learn how to have the right mindset along with some strategies to help myself evolve as a woman through life feeling like I am thriving, progressing and feeling joy in every stage of my life.

One thing I've been doing since I'm a little girl is learning through observation and asking questions. I've been observing my own mother, grandmothers, aunts, and other women in my life and seeing how they're living their lives. I can vividly remember myself seeing how they live and thinking to myself NOT THIS. This is not how I want to live my life.

I am going to take you on a short trip around my family's maternal lineage and show you how these women have suffered throughout their entire lives. My great-grandmother was a beautiful woman who've lost her husband in World War II and was left alone with three kids. Because of her youth and beauty, she was able to still get married (at the time women with children were considered as damaged goods and I'm saying it lightly). Her second marriage wasn't very good but she chose to stay in it because she didn't believe in her ability to sustain herself. Eventually, she passed away in grief and sadness. My grandmother (one of her daughters) physically lost the ability to walk at around age 70, and eventually suffered a brain seizure which led to a long and painful death. My own mom, who I love dearly, had denied her needs so much and that eventually physically manifested as a depression at age 40 which she had for a full year.

Now, this trend of women who are manifesting dis-ease in their body is not unique to my maternal line. I've seen other women, aunts, women on my father's side and husbands side who've had very similar verdicts. Women everywhere are suffering as a result of not fully discovering themselves, their needs and because of their inability to communicate them to other people.

I know what you must be thinking. You can't really compare our generation to past generations, they didn't have the opportunities we have today. Which is true. But each generation had opportunities related to their time. For example, I know women from that generation who've chosen to move to a different province and go to school even while having children at home. They relied heavily on other people's help and were able to eventually sustain themselves and the kids. I know this is a sensitive topic and it is difficult to say these things without judgment so all I'm going to say is that I want to learn from all these women's mistakes to which I refer collectively as 'my mothers' and hopefully create a better life for myself, my daughters and you!

Today I want to talk about three most profound mistakes I've learned from my mothers and I'm also going to talk about what I think you should do instead in order to avoid unnecessary pain.

Mistake number one is the inability to identify your own needs and then to communicate them to other people. Last episode I've spoken about the importance of mastering relationships because as human beings, and especially women we are wired for connection. People are in connection with other people, whether they are your spouse, your children, your co-workers, other family members, friends, etc. The premise here is understanding that it is your job to communicate your needs, and you cannot expect other people to understand you or read your mind. This is not their job. This is your job. Communication is skill number one you must learn. And yes, this is a learnable skill!

Why do most people prefer not to go there? Why do most women prefer not to communicate or state their needs? Why didn't and don't my mothers state their needs? Well, that is for two reasons. Reason number one is they don't know what they need, or at least they think they don't. And reason number two is because we are not taught how to do this effectively. We are not taught how to be in conflict or respond to conflict. Now, here's what I want you to understand, in order to succeed in life and relationships, you must embrace conflict. We must come to peace with the idea that when two, or more people are in connection, there will be disagreements. This is just a given. A reality of life. If you want your relationships to nourish and fill you up you must embrace conflict and learn how to communicate your needs effectively and respectfully.

In a minute I will mention a tool you can use in order to help yourself state these needs, but before I do I want to talk about mistake number two.

So, mistake number two I've observed my mothers do is that they live and lived the majority of their lives without knowing how to regulate their big and scary emotions. Most people and I'm not talking about children here, I mean adult people, don't know how to bounce back after feeling fear, embarrassment, disappointment, shame, feeling of inferiority, feeling small and not respected, or feeling unseen. All of these are emotions, and as human beings, we are emotional beings. We feel things. Do not let your emotions to drive your car. Emotions by nature are temporary, which means that they come and go, and we must learn how to feel in control of our emotional state. When we don't learn how to process our emotions, we feel stuck and unsuccessful, we feel weak and as a result, numb ourselves.

Numbing is a coping and soothing mechanism we use to feel good, to bounce back. However, most of us are using the wrong soothing mechanism. Do you know what I mean by numbing? Some people numb themselves with destructive things like alcohol, drugs or sex. But the majority of people numb themselves with subtle things like TV, sleep, gossip, working too hard and too much, getting themselves busy with mundane things just to fill up their schedule and time in order to not feel the discomfort.

Learning to regulate your big and scary emotions is crucial for your own health and wellbeing and of course is extremely important to teach this to your children.

So, mistake number one is not knowing what you need and communicate it, and mistake number two is not knowing how to regulate your big and scary emotions. I promised to share a great tool you can use to initiate this process and start practicing it. In the show notes, I am attaching two links to two wonderful resources you can use, the first one is called the Needs Inventory and the second one is called The Emotions Inventory. I haven't created these, these are created by the Centre For Nonviolent Communication and the goal is to teach you to communicate effectively. So, here's what you can do for starters, go through the needs and feelings lists, and in your journal write down how you're feeling and what do you need. Ask yourself what do I feel right now? And then ask yourself, which need is not being met? Now is the hard job - communicating what you've come up with. In order to do so, you need to articulate a clear sentence using the need you've identified. Example: "Right now I feel irritable and overwhelmed because the laundry is overflowing and the sink is full of dishes and I have a strong need for order and harmony otherwise I cannot feel centered. Can you please help?"

This work is not easy but so important! It requires a lot of courage and willingness to be vulnerable. If you feel like you need help with identifying your needs and feelings and communicating them either with your spouse or your children, please reach out to me. I offer intensive one-on-one coaching sessions for women where we do this kind of work together, and then you go out there and practice it with people around you. You can email me at dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com.

Alright, let's get into mistake number three I've learned from my mothers. That is giving so much to the point of depletion. I call this "unconscious giving". Why unconscious? Because behind this giving there is fear. Fear that if I don't give I will suffer. If I don't give I am not going to be accounted as a good wife, mother, woman, employee, friend, etc. By the way, this kind of giving is another form of numbing because in your head you're feeling like you are being of service (or saving someone), but in reality, this is only taking away people's power. Unconscious giving is a negative kind of giving. This kind of giving is one-sided because energetically it shuts off reciprocity. Energetically, you are not allowing the other person to give back to you, to do the same to you. Because you don't need anything back from them.

Say your husband got sick. Obviously, you are going to take care of him, bring him food and drink, change his sheets, or do whatever you can to help him heal faster. At which point does this become unconscious? When you are sick, and no one comes to help you. He doesn't bring you tea and food, he doesn't reciprocate. Why does this happen? Because you haven't taught him how to reciprocate to you, how to treat you. Because you haven't communicated to him what you need or what you expect of him. See how crucial it is to know what you need? If you don't know and understand yourself, how can you expect anyone to understand you?

Stop saving people, stop feeling like a hero. You're not. You're only depleting yourself and robbing them of their ability to give back to you and themselves. It's like you don't believe in their ability to take care of you or themselves.

That's how this may sound: "Don't worry about me, I'm fine, just make sure you are ok", or you cook for them, clean for them, but ask for nothing in return. This kind of giving raises selfish spouses and children. So, in order to eradicate this from your life get intentional about giving and also pointing out that it would be nice if they did the same for you. Here's an example: "honey, I am happy to help taking care of the kids and house while you work, and I'd appreciated if you could give me the weekend so that I can catch up with my own work as well". This is something you could say to your kids: "Sweetie, I am happy to pack your school lunch, and I would appreciate it if you could empty the dishwasher when you come back home from school."

Do you see how by communicating like this you are allowing for reciprocity? This is very important!

So, as you can see the three mistakes I've learned from my mothers are basically skills they didn't learn. What's good about skills is that they are learnable that you can practice and master in order to enhance your life. In order to live your life the best way possible, in order to thrive in your life as a woman, wife, and mother you must prioritize yourself as a human being. After all, you are a child of God and you deserve to feel respected, seen, heard, taken care of, nourished, and so on. You owe this to yourself and to your children. Only when you thrive as a woman and human being can you raise children who know how to communicate effectively, embrace conflict in a way that nourishes them and anyone who's in contact with them. That is what I want for myself, my daughters and for you.

I hope this has been helpful and insightful. So your action task for today is to start practicing stating your feelings and needs, first to yourself and then to people you're connected to. If you need help or support feel free to reach out to me, you can email me at dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com.

Show Notes 

Needs Inventory 

Feelings Inventory

Book a discovery call with me

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Ep 42 - Thriving In Your Marriage and Relationships with Tal Dew Shaish

February 14th, 2018

You are a woman.

You might be a wife.

You might be a mother.

Regardless, in order to thrive in your life, you will have to master being in connection and relationship with other human beings. This is just a fact of life. As human beings, and especially as women, we are wired for connection, conversation, communication and relating to other beings. One of the most significant relationships you will ever have is your relationship with your spouse or partner. For most of us, the beginning is great, exciting and sparkled with confetti and pink candy. And then, things basically go downward from there. In my work with women I hear complains such as "he's not the man I married", "there were so many promises that didn't actualize", "we're growing apart", "we live like roommates, and have nothing to talk about other than the house logistics and the kids".

So what do we do? What can we do to keep the love alive?

Today on the show I am chatting with Tal Dew Shaish who is a personal coach, mentor and the author of the book "The 12 Keys to Finding Love in Less Than 300 Dates". In her work she's training people to better interpersonal communication, leading them to breakthroughs in their personal and romantic lives. With many (many) years of being a single woman, endless relationships and dates under her belt, Tal brings a unique outlook on the world of older singles, and on interpersonal communication between couples.

Here's what we cover on the show:

  • Tal's personal "300-dates" story
  • Why do relationships lose their spark and excitement over time?
  • What can we do in order to strengthen our relationships and make them last long-term?
  • Why it's important to let the father play an active role in raising the kids
  • Why shouldn't we be fighting in front of the kids?
  • The importance of nourishing yourself within the "confinement" of a relationship
  • What is the new model of relationship?

I think you are going to love this show, especially since it's going live on Valentines Day! So happy valentines and hope you'll listen to this podcast interview and implement some of the tips Tal shares. I would love to know what are your takeaways from this episode, your feedback is super important to me since this is how I learn about your interests so I can keep producing content you care about and find interesting. So feel free to reach out to me at dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com.

Show Notes 

Tal's website 

Tal's FB group 

Tal's LinkedIn profile 

Tal's book: The 12 Keys to Finding Love in Less Than 300 Dates

Gottman Card Decks App

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Ep 41 - Why Every Woman Who’ve Gone Through Childbirth Must Do Pelvic Floor Physiotherapy with Guest Karin Salzman

February 7th, 2018

As a women's health coach one thing I talk to women about is getting back in shape after having a baby, but this is not the kind of shape you are thinking about. I am not talking about losing weight or getting your pre-baby body back. I've done a whole interview about this topic with Stephanie Sibbio who's a holistic health coach, specializing in fitness and nutrition for new and expecting moms, so if you're interested in this topic, listen to episode #6. 

Today we are going to talk about getting your pelvic floor back in shape. This is important especially if you've gone through vaginal birth, but could be necessary even if you've had a c-section. Almost all women need to see a pelvic floor physiotherapist after birth. If you are struggling with incontinence, pain during intercourse, prolapse, tearing this episode is for you.

This topic is important because way too many women are afraid to talk about this feel shame and embarrassment and if they have these symptoms they are somehow damaged goods or broken. I want you to know that nothing can be further from the truth. You are a child of God and you deserve to be happy, to lead a joyful and full life. You have everything you need to thrive all you need to do is stay curious, open and be willing to do the work. Personally, I am done with keeping quiet, not talking about embarrassing and vulnerable issues. I hope this episode is helpful for you, feel free to reach out to me or Karin in our closed Facebook group 'Busy Moms Get Healthy', where we continue the conversation and you can ask questions related to your health or the health of your family. We are here to support you and your family. 

By the way, If you are interested to work with me privately please feel free to reach out to me via email, dorit@healthbeginswithmom.com. I help women and teenage girls to love themselves, honor their body and thrive in it. I teach a system called The Feminine Current which is all about aligning how you live, love, work, play, mother, and parent with your body's innate wisdom. I will teach you how to organize your life in a way that will feel like you are flowing and living with ease and lots of energy as opposed to being overwhelmed, stuck, and irritated. You deserve to live this way as so do your children. If this sounds interesting or at least something you are curious about let's chat. I want to hear from you and would love to get on the phone with you. Send me an email and let's see if we are a good fit. 

Today on the show I am chatting with Karin Salzman, a wife and mom of 4, and a physiotherapist who helps women heal from symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction so they can thrive and achieve their potential. 

Here's what we cover on the show: 

  • What is pelvic floor physiotherapy
  • what are the symptoms of someone who needs pelvic floor physiotherapy 
  • The five functions of the pelvic floor 
  • What could disrupt the natural function of the pelvic floor
  • An exercise to locate the pelvic floor area
  • How would you know if you have a problem with your pelvic floor
  • Why are Kegel exercises not good enough to strengthen the pelvic floor?
  • Why didn't I know about this kind of therapy?
  • when is a good time to visit a pelvic floor physiotherapist? Before or after birth?
  • What can I expect at a visit with a pelvic floor PT?

Show Notes: 

Karin Salzman PT
Pelvic Health Physiotherapist
416-629-2324

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