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Be The Grown Woman In A Room Full Of Girls (and interview with Sarah Walton) ep-172

November 19th, 2020

She loved dancing.

When she saw The Nutcracker show as a little girl, she said “I want to do that!” to her mom.

She started training with the dance team, was sore all over her body.

She put her body and soul into this passion and craft.

She was Ecstatic. Elated. Happy.

Until she got the letter.

Listen to my interview with my business mentor, Sarah Walton, and our conversation about the limited belief “you can either take care of yourself or your family BUT you can’t have both”.

About Sarah Walton

Sarah Walton is a business mentor who’s been featured on The Today Show, speaks at women’s conferences all over the world and has helped hundreds of women start and grow businesses they LOVE.

She’s the voice behind the Game On Girlfriend Podcast, and she’s known for her weekly “Coffee With Coach” streaming video conversations on Monday mornings, her signature online courses, The Game On Girlfriend Project and The Heart-Centered Business Bootcamp.

She also runs her exclusive Manifest Mastermind, a 9-month development experience for women who are ready to live a platinum-level life. Sarah’s become the go-to source of inspiration, no-nonsense teaching and practical integration for women in business.

Highlights from today’s episode

  1. Sarah’s grocery store story
  2. How do you get over blaming your parents for your circumstances?
  3. Why do people get so scared of money and making money?
  4. What happens when we believe we don’t have control over our time?
  5. Why isn’t money as accessible for women as it is for men?
  6. The limiting beliefs women are conditioned to accept to stay small, be cute, or continue to believe they’re crazy.
  7. What’s the number #1 skill women have to develop to be successful in business?
  8. What would be possible on the planet if every woman unleashed her full potential instead of focusing on her weight and looks?
  9. What makes women so good in business?
  10. How not to be angry with all men for misogyny, toxic masculinity and patriarchy?

Show Notes

Take Back Control Worksheet

Course In Miracles Book

Think Like A Monk – Jay Shetty

Sarah Walton’s website

Game On Girlfriend Podcast

Sarah Walton’s FB page

IG: @thesarahwalton

Nothing is wrong with you! An interview with Dr. Valerie Rein

July 24th, 2020

Hey gorgeous!

On today’s show, I’d like to share step number one in Getting To Know Yourself, my brand new audio training. That is identifying yourself and how you manage your body’s energy.

Here we go (the link to the full training can be found over at www.doritpalvanov.com/gettoknowyourself)

Enjoy!

Transcript:

You know that the experience of a woman is different from a man’s (being different doesn’t imply inferiority). 

But the fact that women are expected to operate in life and business as a man is absurd! 

Men and women have been created differently for a reason and I want you to live your life embracing this truth and accepting it. 

We’re going to begin by introducing you to two types of women I work with and by the end of it, you’ll self identify which woman you resonate with most.

Why does this matter?

Simplicity.

Isn’t that what we all crave? 

I’ve been in this industry long enough to see how confusing ‘health’ can be.

Especially as women.

Your conditions are merely symptoms of a deeper-rooted issue.

Many of the answers to the conditions you have lay in the framework I’m going to teach you today.

Conditions like:

Hormonal imbalances – heavy, painful, irregular periods.

Emotional and mental instabilities – Brain fog, Moodiness, Overwhelm, Snappy behaviour.

Why do you tend to burn out?

Why do you feel sucked-dry of energy?

Why doesn’t life feel fun anymore?

Why do you feel frustrated and uninspired?

The answers lay in the differences between the two types of women I’ve observed in my practice.

Actually, not so much the type as much as how she operates in the world.

How she uses her body energy to live her life.

Meet Kimberly.

She’s an ambitious go-getter.

She’s confident and experienced in the marketplace and knows how and where to push to see results in her job or business.

A kick-ass businesswoman.

She’s busy and has a demanding job.

She’s the breadwinner in her household.

Often the only woman in a male-dominant workplace – striving, competing – to be seen and heard against all odds.

She’s determined. Hard-working. Relentlessly paving her way to the top.

She’s a professional.

Educated.

Often has multiple degrees under her belt (maybe even a Ph.D.).

She’s incredibly smart, talented, skilled and…. tired.

Actually she’s exhausted.

She secretly wonders what’s the point of it all.

Kimberly feels good at work but unsuccessful at home.

She misses the kids.

She craves to spend more time with them.

Dreams of vacations and time off just to catch up with them.

She has a nanny and a housekeeper, but she misses home.

She wishes to have more time.

When she leaves the house she exits her body.

She isn’t satisfied with her marriage. Her sex life is so-so. It’s good but not great.

Her husband isn’t the man she hoped he’d be.

She often considers separation but knows this will shatter the kids.

Her man isn’t a great husband but is a great dad.

Women like Kimberly tend to come into my practice feeling guilty because seemingly, she has everything.

The career, a family, the house, cars, vacations, a convenient lifestyle…

Still, something isn’t enough.

Women like Kimberly often use birth control pills for most of their lives and when they get off of it, experience their emotions for the first time and don’t know what to do with them.

Kimberly often wonders why her body is so messy? She wants to get her periods under control

She feels afraid, disgusted and even mad at femininity.

She questions herself. Often grumpy.

She has vicious dreams, and spirals down on an emotional roller coaster.

Food gives her a wicked handover.

She feels unstable, unbalanced, wobbly.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She never really got to know herself. 

Meet Melissa.

Melissa is a SAHM (or works but not her life’s work).

She’s dedicated her life to her family.

She spends loads of energy trying to please everybody and rarely takes time for herself.

She depends on her husband financially and dreams of financial independence.

Melissa has a vision of starting a blog, or a business she can run from home working part-time hours in between her household responsibilities.

She knows it’s possible, she’d seen other women doing it.

She knows she can do it too.

But for some reason, she never gets to it.

She promised herself to get up early in the morning but never does.

She knows she needs to be consistent, but never has the energy to stick with it.

Her days are hectic with her waking up with the kids and feeling moody.

Sometimes she gets stubborn and doesn’t want to be around anyone (husband and kids included).

She just wants time for herself. Alone. 

Every now and then she has breakdowns and lashes out.

Mental and emotional breakdowns cause her trouble in her marriage and with the kids.

She’s infested with fear, confusion and regret.

She’s stressed about money.

She often wonders when will she be making her own money?

She wants her husband to be proud of her, but instead, he judges her and can’t understand why she’s not coping.

When he gets upset, she gets upset and tends to lose focus.

He spends hours upon hours trying to ‘fix’ and analyze her by acting like her ‘therapist’.

She feels trapped and ‘domesticated’.

She feels like she’s lost herself in the life of motherhood and being a wife.

She doesn’t believe she has the power to break the generational pattern she has been born into.

She feels alone and craves community.

Melissa wants to belong to something bigger than herself and her family.

In terms of health conditions, women like Melissa, complain about conditions like irregular and heavy periods (thyroid and adrenal issues), adult acne, weight gain, bulky arms and back, brain fog, cognitive and mental issues, short-term-memory-loss and emotional eating.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

So today you’re going to learn three steps on how to understand yourself as a woman so you can become the confident, energized and passionate woman you were destined to be on your own terms. 

This is the foundation to creating a life that works for you instead of against you. This training will help you become a victor instead of a victim of life’s circumstances. You have the power to have anything you want. 

The question isn’t ‘Why’, but ‘Why not’? Or ‘Why me?’ but ‘Why not me?’

This training will be like a powerful coaching session with me, on-demand! 

You know that the experience of a woman is different from a man’s (being different doesn’t imply inferiority). 

But the fact that women are expected to operate in life and business as a man is absurd! 

Men and women have been created differently for a reason and I want you to live your life embracing this truth and accepting it. 

We’re going to begin by introducing you to two types of women I work with and by the end of it, you’ll self identify which woman you resonate with most.

Why does this matter?

Simplicity.

Isn’t that what we all crave? 

I’ve been in this industry long enough to see how confusing ‘health’ can be.

Especially as women.

Your conditions are merely symptoms of a deeper-rooted issue.

Many of the answers to the conditions you have lay in the framework I’m going to teach you today.

Conditions like:

Hormonal imbalances – heavy, painful, irregular periods.

Emotional and mental instabilities – Brain fog, Moodiness, Overwhelm, Snappy behaviour.

Why do you tend to burn out?

Why do you feel sucked-dry of energy?

Why doesn’t life feel fun anymore?

Why do you feel frustrated and uninspired?

The answers lay in the differences between the two types of women I’ve observed in my practice.

Actually, not so much the type as much as how she operates in the world.

How she uses her body energy to live her life.

Meet Kimberly.

She’s an ambitious go-getter.

She’s confident and experienced in the marketplace and knows how and where to push to see results in her job or business.

A kick-ass businesswoman.

She’s busy and has a demanding job.

She’s the breadwinner in her household.

Often the only woman in a male-dominant workplace – striving, competing – to be seen and heard against all odds.

She’s determined. Hard-working. Relentlessly paving her way to the top.

She’s a professional.

Educated.

Often has multiple degrees under her belt (maybe even a Ph.D.).

She’s incredibly smart, talented, skilled and…. tired.

Actually she’s exhausted.

She secretly wonders what’s the point of it all.

Kimberly feels good at work but unsuccessful at home.

She misses the kids.

She craves to spend more time with them.

Dreams of vacations and time off just to catch up with them.

She has a nanny and a housekeeper, but she misses home.

She wishes to have more time.

When she leaves the house she exits her body.

She isn’t satisfied with her marriage. Her sex life is so-so. It’s good but not great.

Her husband isn’t the man she hoped he’d be.

She often considers separation but knows this will shatter the kids.

Her man isn’t a great husband but is a great dad.

Women like Kimberly tend to come into my practice feeling guilty because seemingly, she has everything.

The career, a family, the house, cars, vacations, a convenient lifestyle…

Still, something isn’t enough.

Women like Kimberly often use birth control pills for most of their lives and when they get off of it, experience their emotions for the first time and don’t know what to do with them.

Kimberly often wonders why her body is so messy? She wants to get her periods under control

She feels afraid, disgusted and even mad at femininity.

She questions herself. Often grumpy.

She has vicious dreams, and spirals down on an emotional roller coaster.

Food gives her a wicked handover.

She feels unstable, unbalanced, wobbly.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She never really got to know herself. 

Meet Melissa.

Melissa is a SAHM (or works but not her life’s work).

She’s dedicated her life to her family.

She spends loads of energy trying to please everybody and rarely takes time for herself.

She depends on her husband financially and dreams of financial independence.

Melissa has a vision of starting a blog, or a business she can run from home working part-time hours in between her household responsibilities.

She knows it’s possible, she’d seen other women doing it.

She knows she can do it too.

But for some reason, she never gets to it.

She promised herself to get up early in the morning but never does.

She knows she needs to be consistent, but never has the energy to stick with it.

Her days are hectic with her waking up with the kids and feeling moody.

Sometimes she gets stubborn and doesn’t want to be around anyone (husband and kids included).

She just wants time for herself. Alone. 

Every now and then she has breakdowns and lashes out.

Mental and emotional breakdowns cause her trouble in her marriage and with the kids.

She’s infested with fear, confusion and regret.

She’s stressed about money.

She often wonders when will she be making her own money?

She wants her husband to be proud of her, but instead, he judges her and can’t understand why she’s not coping.

When he gets upset, she gets upset and tends to lose focus.

He spends hours upon hours trying to ‘fix’ and analyze her by acting like her ‘therapist’.

She feels trapped and ‘domesticated’.

She feels like she’s lost herself in the life of motherhood and being a wife.

She doesn’t believe she has the power to break the generational pattern she has been born into.

She feels alone and craves community.

Melissa wants to belong to something bigger than herself and her family.

In terms of health conditions, women like Melissa, complain about conditions like irregular and heavy periods (thyroid and adrenal issues), adult acne, weight gain, bulky arms and back, brain fog, cognitive and mental issues, short-term-memory-loss and emotional eating.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She, too, never really got to know herself. 

Want the rest of the audio training?

Head on over to www.doritpalvanov.com/gettoknowyourself where you can download the full audio training in full.

 

Speaking of ‘what’s wrong with me?’ today I’m chatting with Dr. Valerie Rein, author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder – The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment. 

About Dr. Valerie Rein

Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the generational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” and her cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from survival to thriving and master the game of “How good can it get?” in their work and personal lives. Dr. Valerie is a sought-after speaker and trainer at conferences and companies committed to setting new standards of excellence in their industry in diversity, equity, and inclusion, employee satisfaction, their physical and mental health, and creativity and innovation.

Highlights from today’s episode:

1. Dr. Valerie’s story of burnout and healing from it

2. Valerie’s definition and examples of patriarchy (is it man-hating?) and trauma.

3. The five steps to healing Patriarchy Stress Disorder using my burnout story as a case study.

4. Dr. Valerie answers my rapid-fire questions, her definition of feminine power, what makes her feel confident, energized and sexy.

 

After today’s interview, hopefully, you will understand that nothing stands in your way other than yourself and the trauma and oppression you’ve been carrying since you were born a female.

Show Notes

Join The Thriving Experience here

CONNECT WITH DR VALERIE ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drvalerierein/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvalerierein

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/drvalerierein/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEYKwkWCYCSkvpPA8W1ZegQJOIN

VALERIE’S FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1076117229121447

How to Mom 18 kids without burning out? (ep-161)

July 16th, 2020

Today on the podcast I’m chatting with Jenn Taylor from www.momof18.com.

Jenn is mom to 18 kids. Yes, you’ve read that right, eighteen.

Some of those kids are biological and some are adopted and others are from foster care. I loved how Jenn said, ‘all of them are mine and don’t ever ask me that again’.

18 children have blessed her life. She went through infertility, seven pregnancies and has 12 years of foster parenting under her belt, plus a few more working at a non-profit with foster kids.

She’s been a stay-at-home Mom, homeschooling and making baby food from scratch, a Mom working in the corporate world and an Entrepreneurial Mom. She’s been divorced, and a single mom and She’s also experienced life with a blended family.

In the end, she was blessed to end up with kids from everywhere. More than “Yours, Mine and Ours” – an amalgam of foster children who aged out, adopted children, stepchildren, biological children and even a foreign exchange student.

Man, if that’s not inspiring I don’t know what is!

This was a conversation where I was listening more than talking because quite frankly, I find it fascinating and even impossible that someone can raise 18 children and come out on the other side not burnt out.

So, yet again, I was wrong.

As usual, I was projecting my own crap and fears.

If you find raising children wearying and if you believe that you’re burnt out because you have multiple children, wait until you hear Jenn’s story and more importantly her outlook and mindset.

By the end of this conversation, I observed myself feeling more empowered and trusting my abilities to raise ‘only’ tree kids.

You’ll hear Jenn respond to this comment with a beautiful analogy that changed everything for me. No matter how many kids we have, we are all parents. Being a parent is hard. It’s exhausting and challenging on so many levels but it’s also the thing that builds us up.

Motherhood and parenting allows us to be in the valley between mountains of opposing energies at all times.

You’re tired and energized at the same time.

You’re angry and in-love at the same time!

You’re inspired and depleted at the same time!

You’re happy, ecstatic and annoyed at the same time.

That’s the gift of motherhood for me.

Learning how to be OK ‘in the valley of motherhood’.

Because motherhood is simply one aspect of who you are, but you are so much more than that, Jenn is a great example of that.

She’s a mom of 18 kids, and also a minimalist, athlete, wife, bursting with sarcasm and humour. I just loved this conversation and can’t wait to share it with you!!

Buckle up mama, this interview will blow your mind!

Enjoy listening!

Highlights from today’s interview

  • Jenn’s journey of raising 18 kids
  • How Jenn is healing familial dysfunction
  • Jenn’s attitude towards logistics and managing the household with 18 kids
  • Jenn’s take on resourcefulness and creatively solving problems as a mom
  • How she managed to stay confident, energized and sexy as a mom of 18 kids?
  • Compounding joy theory
  • What makes her feel confident, energized and sexy as a woman

Jenn and I want to hear from you

How many kids do you have? What’s one mindset shift you’re leaving with after hearing this interview?

 

Show Notes

My brand new audio training – Get To Know Yourself

Jenn’s book: Hello my name is warrior princess

Jenn’s podcast: The Naked Podcaster

Jenn’s website

Jenn’s Instagram

Diversity and Inclusivity Begin At Home (ep-158)

June 17th, 2020

Today on the podcast we’re continuing the conversation about diversity, inclusivity, privilege, social injustice, profiling, discrimination and fairness among all human beings.

I believe that we are all children of God and deserve basic human rights, feeling like we belong in society and the world, feeling safe and acknowledged for who we are without discrimination, or the need to protect ourselves and our children constantly from bias, prejudice, injustice.

As a woman, wife and mother I wouldn’t want to live in a world where my life force energy is spent in the wrong places – like fearing my children aren’t safe on the streets, or not trusting authorities to protect us or treat us differently just because of the colour of my skin.

In this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Megan Stewart Hodge, the founder of Cultiver. She is an executive, public speaker and advocate for diversity and cultures of inclusion in the workplace.

Megan strives for whole-person success in her interwoven career and personal journey, prioritizing authenticity in life and as a leader in the insurance industry. Megan has cultivated her expertise as a leader throughout her career with a strong focus on operational strategy, innovation, fostering talent and inclusive culture development and consummate client advisory.

Megan is the author of Voix, commencing in January 2020 in the glu, a monthly storytelling series highlighting the imperative of using our individual and collective voices to advance and empower women in all facets of our lives.

Megan believes it is critical to use our voices and our positions of leadership to drive meaningful change for a more inclusive industry and society.

Megan, like myself, is a wife and mother who believes in equal rights and strives to educate herself on big, scary and loaded topics and introducing them to our families in a palatable, digestible way.

Highlights from this episode:

  • Megan’s story and how she came to do this work
  • Definitions – diversity, inclusion, privilege, social injustice, profiling, discrimination, fairness. What does this mean and why does it matter?
  • The importance of having freedom for expressing yourself fully, authentically and feeling safe in the world
  • Why does this conversation matter for mothers?
  • Why does this have to start at home?
  • Tips and tools for having age-appropriate conversations about race at home with children (videos, books, documentaries, etc).
  • What are some examples of exhibiting inclusive and diverse behaviour at home and in the outside world?

This is an important conversation I recommend for women, especially if you’re raising children and your vision for them is living in a world that is fair for all human beings.

If you are, like me, a newbie to this topic, this conversation will help you to get started. Remember, social justice is a marathon, not a sprint, and both Megan and I believe this has got to start at home. Even if you feel like there’s nothing you can do to contribute to change, there’s a lot you can do at home. Listen to how Megan and I are doing it and join in with us.

Megan and I want to hear from you!

How are you educating yourself and your children about social injustice and what are some examples of the things you do at home? Comment below.

 

Show Notes

https://doritpalvanov.com/podcast/158/

Understanding Men with Alison Armstrong

May 14th, 2020

Today's episode is extremely important and an absolute must for every woman who's struggling feeling unsupported, alone, forgotten and unappreciated always and during the Covid-19 pandemic. We're home with our partners and kids more than we've ever been, and especially now it is CRUCIAL to understand how men are built psychologically and how they think so we can get the help we need while supporting each other's needs.

I have used this language to communicate with my husband my need for alone time, my need for a clean kitchen at the end of the day, I got him to load the dishwasher and remember to turn it on. These are little things that seem insignificant in a man's head but to us, women, they are insurmountable in their effect and magnitude.

So Today's episode will help you to begin this conversation with your partner and hopefully alleviate some of the current stress, arguments, nagging, begging and constant bickering which causes so much destruction and disconnection instead of connecting during such challenging time. Right now we need each other more than ever, so let's make this productive and effective.

 

Show Notes

https://doritpalvanov.com/podcast/156/

Invest in Yourself! (ep-147)

March 5th, 2020

Invest in yourself! No one can do this for you! 

Healing From Eating Disorders in Body, Mind and Soul with Karin Adoni Ben-David

January 10th, 2020

Today I'm chatting with Karin Adoni Ben-David - a highly sought-after Certified Nutritionist and Health Coach specializing in healthy lifestyles, emotional eating, and sugar detox.

Here are the highlights of our conversation:

* Karin's personal story dealing with eating disorders

* What can mothers do to help our daughters avoid diet culture and the need to be skinny?

* The main struggles of women in Karin's practice

* Emotional eating and the number one cause for weight gain (that has nothing to do with food)

* The truth about diet pills and diets fads

* The importance of owning your own power and health journey.

* Benefits of sugar detox for women

* Tips for dealing with the resistance in the body due to a sugar

As well as what makes her feel confident, energized and sexy as a woman.

This episode is jam-packed with wisdom and great advice from someone who was able to shift her life around and turn her struggle into service and a gift to the world.

You don't want to miss out on this one!

Enjoy listening!

Xo,
Dorit

Show Notes:
https://doritpalvanov.com/podcast/139/

What Frozen 2 Taught Me As A Woman

December 29th, 2019

For full show notes head on over to: www.doritpalvanov.com/podcast/ep-138

 

To get instant access to the free masterclass on the Exact 3 Steps to Get Your Energy Back, after Getting Married and Having Kids go to: https://doritpalvanov.com/energy-masterclass/

 

To book a free 45-minute discovery call with me go to: https://doritpalvanov.com/contact/discovery/

Motherhood, Anxiety, Postpartum Depression and Everything in Between with Julia Kristina

October 31st, 2019

Hey mamas,

Today on the show I get to chat with Julia Kristina from juliakristina.com. She's a Registered Clinical Counsellor and the founder and host of the weekly YouTube channel Julia Kristina Mah where she talks about mindfulness, mindset and mental wellness with over 100K subscribers! She's also a wife and mom of three.

I found Julia on my own quest healing from codependency and love following her online.

Today on the show we focused our conversation on motherhood, anxiety, postpartum depression and everything in between and my hope is that her advice and expertise will help you to change your mindset around your own mental health and serve as a reminder that you are not broken, weak, weird, stupid or anything else that circles in your mind.

You are whole and complete just as you are and if you need some help from a therapist, counsellor or a coach it doesn't make you less than, it only makes you a seeker who's determined to live life to the fullest.

I have shared many times that throughout my own journey I have hired coaches, therapists, mentors and healers, and still do because I wholeheartedly believe that we were not meant to do this alone.

Here's what we've talked about:

  • The difference between coaching and therapy.
  • The stigma of mental health and what to do when you're afraid of facing hard things.
  • Our emotional reactions, how they're created and how to take more control of your own life and change.
  • The mother wound and individuating from our mothers to gain more confidence, energy and owning your power back.
  • Individuating from our mothers and why we have to stop blaming our moms.
  • The one thing we must do to raise confident daughters?
  • Anxiety in motherhood and how to lower its intensity
  • The need for control and living in isolation and the price we're paying as moms
  • The steps moms can take to heal from postpartum depression
  • Are antidepressants and antianxiety medication safe?

Show Notes: 

For full show notes, head on over tohttps://doritpalvanov.com/podcast/130/

Becoming A Self-Confident Woman, Wife and Mother

October 3rd, 2019

For full show-notes head on over to www.healthbeginswithmom.com/ep-126

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